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writes:Dear Cupid, Me and my bf been dating over a year and is going good for now. But there's a secret i want to tell him, i think I am in love with my bestfriend... but she's a girl.I knew her ever since 7th grade and she moved away after 8th grade. I havent seen her for the longest of years untill last friday I saw her at the mall. We chilled and catch upo with everything. She told me she was bi and dating a girl for 2 years and i tols her I have a bf for over a year.Later on she called me up to spend the night with her and I did. We hangout out like girls would do overa sleepover, but things kind of got of hand. She kissed me and we started to makeout and had sex.The next couple of days I started to think about her and falling in love with her. What should I do? Should i pursue her, just me and her? Should I still talk to her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): I've had this problem but not to a large extent.I think that you should talk to your boyfriend, you may hurt him but in my opinion you should talk to someone who is so close to you. You also need to ask yourslef one thing, are you straight, or are you bi? And why dont you ask your best friend about what she's gunna do, she has a girlfriend herself, you know. I think your only falling for your friend cos obviosly know her very well and love her, but then you had sex and feelings got confused.
I don't think you and your friend will work out being partners, cos it will be tense cos neither of you really know whats happening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): i say go with what u feel is right but one question are u straight or bi. Because you said you have a boyfriend but you also have to consider she has a gf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): I think the first thing you should do is break up with your boyfriend. Whether you pursue her or not you have already destroyed the relationship with him by cheating on him. Only after you have done that should you even consider going after her.
The second thing you should do is consider the fact that she was in a two year relationship with someone else and cheated on that person with you. After the two of you had sex the specter of "Once a cheater always a cheater." will no doubt haunt your future relationship together.
I see no problem with continuing to talk to her as long as each of you is honest about what occurred and can get past it.
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reader, grumpy1359 +, writes (12 November 2007):
 follow your heart do u love your friend or your bf more it is hard i am sure but u have to chose
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): I say, see who you like more. Have sex with your boyfriend, and think about him. If you like him more, keep him. If not, pursue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): a similar thing happend to me.
i have a bf and so does my bestfriend (we are all in 8th grade) but me and my bestfriend have sex all the time and dont tell are bfs no big deal
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