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writes:Hello agony aunts and uncles. I need your help badly! I broke up with my boyfriend who've I've been with for 6 months about a week ago because we don't live close enough to see each other everyday. He started to ignore my texts and when I'd call he'd pick up and say he was busy and he'd call me later, but didn't. He's a really busy guy and I know he wasn't cheating on me, but I got sick of waiting so I sent him a text saying it was over and then he called and apologized for being distant.Anyway, he asked if we could talk about it later because he had a tutoring session that he was about to go to. I said yes and I was going to give him another chance, but then my implusivity kicked in. I wrote him a nasty email saying I don't want to hear his excuses and that he must have made up his mind a long time ago about not wanting to be together otherwise he would have tried harder. Then I sent him a bunch of mean text messages while he was getting tutored and he yelled at me. The next day I told him I need my stuff from his house and he yelled at me again cause he was busy.Anyway, I want him back really badly. I love him and I was too needy before and I realized he can't contact me every second of the day or when I want him to. He's a wonderful man and I want another chance to be happy with him because we were very happy for awhile and I know when things get easier on him that we can be happy in the future. My questions are how do I let him know I can be there for him and how do I go about contacting him (it's been 6 days since I have). I asked about my stuff the last two times we spoke and he said he'd call me, which of course he hasn't. I wonder if he's holding onto my stuff because he doesn't want to let me go? I mean I have stuff all over his place and I would think if he were that mad at me that he'd tell me to come and pick it up asap. Opinions? Thanks guys!
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 Yes hormoans could of been one of the reasons you got so angry as i am sure your aware when your pregnant mood swings can go off the rails.
However you typed those words and you were generally irratted so despite hormoans making it worse your were incontroll yourself.
It could of made you feel clingly however, and emotional like you needed someone there 247 so it could be one reason you were kind of constantly texting him.
Anyway despite weather things are sorted out with you two you need to tell him your pregnant, it his baby after all as much as it is yours and as you have just found out you need to discuss things like where do you go from here.
It will be hard to tell him but i suggest you get it over with so you don't spend all your time dwelling on it.
Good luck, and congrats with the baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo he just text me saying we should talk about an hour ago after I texted him asking if he had 2 minutes to spare. I'm not sure if he'll actually call, but something has changed to make me want him back even more.I went to the doctor today because I haven't been feeling well and he told me I was a few weeks pregnant. Now I'm not sure how to tell him and how he'll react. There's no doubt it's his, but I have no idea what to do now. A part of me wants to tell him in hopes that he'll take me back, but another part of me wants nothing to do with him anymore. Maybe it's hormones? Maybe that's why I blacked out on him in the first place?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2011): I hate to say it but you may have messed this up for good. What person in their right mind would go back to someone who does a complete 180 and is mean and nasty to them for no reason? I mean, he already apologized and said he would meet up to talk about what you wanted to talk about, and you said OK. Then you suddenly turned all mean spirited towards him. Why on earth should he want to be with you? Learn from this mistake, and leave him alone and move on so you don't make the same mistake in your next relationship. if he takes you back now, this would simply teach you that it's alright for you to treat him badly as long as you later follow it up with enough apologizing and begging or crying or gifts or whatever. And that's not right. you need to leave him alone. Even though you have stuff at his place. maybe he wants nothing to do with you anymore, that's why he won't even contact you to tell you to get your stuff out because then he'd have to talk to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2011): The truth hurts, but you are way too immature to be in a relationship. You completely screwed up everything with this guy and of course he won't take you back- guys move on, no questions asked. You need to develop yourself and stop playing games. Just move on, this poor guy has had enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe problem is he doesn't want to speak to me. I wrote him an email last night apologizing, and told him to hit me up when I could come get my things. I know he read it, but he hasn't responded using any form of communication. I feel like he's done with me for good, or he's thinking whether or not to let me back in his life. I guess I'll have to play the waiting game some more.
I invited him to a party this weekend for Halloween and he said he'd definitely come with me because we made had to make a reservation so I'm hoping he'll magically show up because he paid for it lol
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 October 2011):
 You can tell him how you feel and see what he thinks. If he doesn't want to try again, then you will hopefully have learned from this experience.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (26 October 2011):
Well yeah you messed up big time but i am glad unlike alot of people on here you have accepted that. Well what can i say your gonna kind of confuse him if now you say your sorry and you want him back when not that long ago you were curseing and throughing nast comments at him. Even though you say you have understood that he has a busy lifestyle and struggles to keep in contact with you that your willing to accept that, how do you know that it isn't going to get to much for you again? Be sure you are making the right decision. Go to his house when you know he is free or if you would pefer calling him do it say that what you did was extreamly out of order and you were just having a mega bad day say you have realized how controlling you have beeen and that if he is willing to try again we should sort some times out when your free for a call or text and when i can meet up. I guess apolgizing is the best you can do? you have to let him decide from there onwards. Oh and about your things maybe he just been to busy to get you to come over and pick them up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): Yes you were very needy by the sound of it. You can kill a relationship being very insecure which is at the bottom of all this. I would try to set the record straight with him in the most calm way you can. Make no demands, or conditions. Perhaps write a lovely letter setting out your thoughts and suggest going for a meal to talk. There is no point though, if you are only going to flip back into being needy should you get together. You need to look inside yourself and ask why you demand more than you can expect from a person.
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