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writes:my current boyfriend of 1 year has cheated on his 2 ex girlfriends with multiple one night stand partners. he was with the 2 ex girlfriends for 2 and 1 years respectively when he was 27 and 30 years old. they never found out he cheated.He is now 31 and his friends are all getting married. Will he do the same to me?He has introduced me to his family and relatives, and we have bought a place together.Does this mean he is serious this time round?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe doesnt know that im aware of the cheating on his exs. I found out via his friend and went did some investigations to verify the facts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe cheated on his ex with me, but i did not know he was attached. Does asking a girl whether she is single = interested in her? It is the first time he is buying a place with someone. Are chances of him changing very slim? Is it because he was young and hence he wanted to play around? Being 31 now will he have the urge to settle down and commit?
Sorry for asking so many questions. Am very confused now.
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reader, Bickycat  +, writes (2 June 2010):
So during your first month he was cheating on you and previous girlfriend? Why would he want to know if this other girl was single after pretending not to know her? I'm sorry, but this guy doesn't sound like he's changed. As Ask Oldersister has said, he has warned you,and you've accepted it, so he'll think it's O.K. for him to do it again. It's hard but you need to move on from this cheater.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe did not tell me that he cheated on them. I found out myself. He was still attached to the previous girlfriend during the first month we started dating. Technically I was the third party but I didn't know.
What is he up to when he bump into another girl he was after in his previous relationship before he met me, pretended that he doesn't really know her in front me me, and SMS her the next day asking whether she is still single? He is just curious or being concerned or want to go after her again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): I don't believe the "once a cheater always a cheater". I knew a guy who cheated on 5-6 girls, and then got with one girl and never cheated on her once. He adored her and wanted to marry her and be with her forever. He was entirely faithful, something we thought (as his friends) would never happen. He was a sex hound and an attention whore and just so needy before that he was always chasing skirts and catching girls. Then, he met one girl and just stuck on her. They ended up breaking up due to the fact they went long distance and it didn't work out, but still.Cheaters can become faithful.. Once they find the right person. Or, they might grow out of their sexual tendencies. My fiance was a sexual deviant when he was young (never cheated on anyone, but had a lot of sex with a lot of people) and now he's almost a prude. Haha. He very much grew out of it, and I never worry about him even though he was always dumping girls and grabbing new ones to feed his sexual habits when he was young. People change.This is not to say he will not or hasn't cheated on you-- I don't know him, I can't say. From what you've said, probably not. But that really isn't enough info to go off of. Was he honest to you about his cheating? Did his ex's get the same treatment? Do you trust him? Lots of questions need to be answered here. So he may or may not. There is no definite answer.
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reader, loonman4  +, writes (1 June 2010):
As they say, leopards don't change their spots. Unfortunately, you might have to move on.
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reader, Bickycat +, writes (1 June 2010):
The fact that you need to ask this tells me that you don't really trust this guy. You should take note if your gut feelings. He may have found 'the one', I hope so - but you don't seem too sure. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): He has cheated on 2 gf in the past - neither of which suspected anything.... sorry but he will do the same to you.
Once a cheater always a cheater.
Sorry!
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