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writes:when i lost my virginity i bled alot during the sexthe guy i did it with carried on and he didnt use a condomhe had blood all over himbut he didnt seem phased or bothered at allbut i was quite embarassedme and him havent had sex since could this be why?and also when i gave him a bj he didnt cum, altho when i was giving him 1 he seemed to be enjoying it, but after like 2 mins of giving him 1, he flipped me over and licked me out...and he cum when we actually had sex...so basically im embarassed, its really knocked my confidence, would he be put off by me? would he have told his friends about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): This guy is using you for easy sex. It doesn't sound like you were ready (mentally and emotionally) to have sex with him, and neither of you did much to get you ready physically, either.
There is a cultural stereotype that oral sex is the most pleasurable thing you can do to a guy. That's not true - a lot of guys almost never climax from a blowjob. Don't be worried because he didn't go all the way when you went down on him. If he really respected you - not even truly cared for you, just respected you as a person - he would help you learn to bring him to orgasm.
Many girls bleed the first time they have sex. It's nothing to be ashamed of. A considerate partner would have had a towel or washrag ready to clean up as soon as it was over. Maybe even some warm water to help your privates feel better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDid this guy know that you were a virgin?no he didnt, he thought id had sex beforeSorry, but are you on the pill? Or any other sort of contraception? i took the morning after pill, and i know im not pregnantDo you know if he had ever had sex before? If so, can you be sure that he would have no STIshe had sex before, hes 22 and he told me he had been checked as he was in the armyme and him werent even intending on having sex, it just sort of happened as i invited him around my house for a movie
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): Quite a few women bleed their first time. Because the vaginal opening is being stretched and torn. Try not to be embarressed about it seeing as he didn't seem phased at all I doubt he was put off by it.
Did this guy know that you were a virgin?
Sorry, but are you on the pill? Or any other sort of contraception? Do you know if he had ever had sex before? If so, can you be sure that he would have no STIs?
You wonder why you havn't had sex since... Maybe he was scared he'd hurt you and doesn't want to hurt you again.
Or maybe, and I'm sorry to say this, he only ever saw it as a one night stand.
None of us can asnwer whether he would have told his friends or not.
Just relax. What haooened to you happens to a lot of girls their first time.
I wouldn't worry about him stopping to blowjob to pleasure you. Some men prefer giving pleasure than recieving it and he probably just wanted to please you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): http://barutiblogshukran.blogspot.com/2008/08/ive-lost-confidence-after-my-experience.html
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