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writes: The first time I liked a guy was when I was 12 years old and i thought, well it's just a normal puberty thing or something. It will go away in time. I didn't even know him at first and when I did, I hated him. For some weird reason, every single time he saw me, he ran. My friends annoy me with him. and I was obviously annoyed because at that time I didn't even know him. and by the time I realized that I like him ( when I was 12 ) school ended, and we switched schools. and so I went to register at this school when I was 13 and I was okay, since at that time, the feeling was still new and it'll fade away but then, I saw this guy's name on the list of class at school and he ended up in the same class as I am. Well we talked but I was a very shy girl, I couldn't even look at him. He was the only friend I had at the time, until a month passed and he moved away. The last thing he told me before he left is " it's hard that I'm moving. " and he left. I was in a loss. My feelings were deeper than before. I could barely talk and I fell into depression. My classmate confessed that he liked me when I was 15 and I thought, maybe this is a chance to move on as I've taken an interest towards him. By then, i went to this school programme and I was walking alone with this guy whom I don't know in front of me. and it was him, the guy I liked, so I studied hard. and I managed to change into his neighbouring school when i was 16. The reason why I didn't change to his school is because my parents hated boarding school. So I'm fine. I joined this firefighter club when I entered school in order to meet him in the interschool firefighting competition but I wasn't qualify so I told my friend to say hi to him and to not reveal my identitity. I was in distraught. However, when i was 17, i met him at this interschool activity and I saw him laughing with his friends from afar. I was so happy, however, it ended as that. When I was 18, I met him on an accidental encounter when I went shopping with my friends. He looked at my friend but he never saw me. So I should probably give up by now shouldn't I, everything seems hopeless. I tried moving on since I entered university, i met new people and i'd thought i'd fallen for a new guy but when i turned 19, he found my social account and decided to add me. which i think isn't a big deal (since I'd thought I was over him) but then, he spoke to me and asked for my number. and yes I spoke to him on several occassions. and here I am 19 and i'm still in love with the same guy as I was when I was 12 but I'm just too shy. Should I move on? I feel hopeless but there's one part of me that tells me to hold on. Can a person love a guy for this long, where the last time i saw him face to face when I was 13, having to lose contact and to find him again when I'm on the verge of giving up. I've done so much, and I'm on my limits. and the average age to get married in my country is 20++. I'm devastated, hopeless, numb.(sorry for the long question)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2014): Nothing ventured nothing gained , if u like him find a way to spend time with him if there's a "spark" or a "moment" then u know he likes u if not then at least u know where u stand
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2014): he has ur number ur friends on a social media site y not ask him if he fancies doing something one time if u feel its too much and too scary then say ur going to see a film with friends and does he and a friend want to join u then u both wont feel pressure as its friends going out, if u text or message him via the social media site u get to ask him without speaking and being full of nerves but if he says no dont be on a downer just say ok another time :) , that way he sees ur not gutted and a happy positive person that men like
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2014): Yes you should give up. You are just holding on to a schoolyard crush and the thought of how he might be. By now, you don't even know him. Given your history with him, you never really got to know him for who he is, and even if you had, he's most likely not the same as how he was when you liked him at age 13. Just remind yourself of this fact, and that you are only in love with the thought of him since you don't really know him. Stop holding on to a stranger.
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