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writes:well ive known and loved a guy for 7 years. we basically grew up together and ive been out with a few guys since but ive still always fancied him deep down inside. i always tried to cover up my feelings. Its only lately ive allowed myself to feel my feelings for him (if that makes sense).now, im 18 and i really want to be with him, but im too scared to try and let him know how i feel because when i was about 13, i tried to ask him out and he declined. being rejected twice would be awful.nowadays, hes really nice to me and stuff... he would come over and sit next to me, ive caught him lookin at me sometimes too, but the confusing thing is sometimes i overhear him discussing other girls he's in contact with other guys.im really not sure what to do!!! please help me out. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): Dear Poster
I have empathy with you; it must be very difficult and I wish there was a easy recipe to forward; however there is not; life is about trial and error; about learning!
I suggest you plan something with a group of friends and invite him along; then maybe you will get an opportunity to flirt with him and monitor his reactions; if he is interested he should react; you will have to take this step by step and watch his body language;
Alternatively surprise him with a great kiss! (lol) Depending on his reaction; you can always laugh it off afterwards by saying something like "I have been wanting to do this since I was 13"
There are so many things you can try, but I think whatever you do, keep your dignity.
You are fortunate, you know him for a long time so you can really use humor to your advantage. Be self confident and if it does not go the way you want or hoped; lift your chin and pretend it was just a joke.
This is difficult and I really hope you can create some opportunity to make him more aware of yourself.
Always remember, guys notice when you are having FUN and SMILING. Don't make this an serious thing; do it light hearted, enjoy and have FUN!
Keep us posted.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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