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writes:Help! I have got myself into a complicated situation and need some advice! I have just recently started university where I have made lots of good friends and lets just say I have got to know one of them a lot better than the others! The only problem is he has a girlfriend. Yes I know I have done wrong (playing with fire and all that), but I just cant help myself I have fallen for him big time and I know for a fact that he feels the same about me. His g/friend is a witch! She treats him like something she has just stepped in and the worst part is he has actually admitted that hes not happy with her! They have been together since they were both 15yrs old (hes 18 now)so maybe this is the reason he hasnt left her yet, fear of the unknown maybe, I dont know. We get on like a house on fire and I feel more comfortable with him than I ever have with anyone. So what I basically want to know is do you guys think hes worth waiting for or should I just give up now? Ive had so much hurt with relationships in the past, I dont want anymore! x
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (11 October 2007):
Tell him if he ever drops her as his gf you want to be first in line to apply for the job.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 If he was such a swell guy, he wouldnt be stringing you along like this.
He's not a married man with half a dozen kids in tow, he is a young bloke at university with few responsibilities. If he hasnt got the courage to break off with his "witch" of a girlfriend then either he's totally spineless or he likes the option of having a couple of girls on the go.
I wouldnt bother if I was you, but if you tell him that you are not going to see him until he is finished with this girl you will know pretty soon where his priorities lie.
Good luck.
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 October 2007):
 I think if he feelings for you are the way you say, the other girl would be history. Guys don't have as much of the fear of the unknown as women do. They do play the field I think a bit more. Could there be a possibility he's telling you what you want to hear to get what he wants to get?
I'd move on, and let him know you don't feel right about being with someone who has someone. If you're who he really wants, she'll be history. He'll get defensive if he's only telling you what you want to hear. Then you'll know where you stand.
Keep working on the past relationship pain. You won't be able to give your whole self to a relationship until you do.
Take care.
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