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writes:i constently have piles and nthing will get rid of it and mi boyfriend is reall discusted by it he keeps askin for anal sex but it would really hurt and every time he sticks his penis up my virgina it reall hurts and stings wot should i do he will dump me if i dont get rid of it????
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reader, Dr. Smith M.D  +, writes (27 January 2012):
I know I might sound stupid to a few but as a doctor and a self tested person I will advise something. If there is piles then anal sex is strict NO. Otherwise, for example incase of lumps after pregnancy, anal sex works as a medicine. Just make sure you use proper lubes. Spanking is an added advantage to make the butt cheeks softer. Ask him to do it from behind rather than u being on top. if you can avoid vaginal sex for a while and be regular for a week or so in anal sex then it can even heal those lumps faster.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): Three things.
1. If sex isn't good between two people at least one of them isn't thinking about the there other person. Its supposed to be about mutual enjoyment. Your boyfriend needs dumping.
2. Seek some medical help for the piles, are you sure its piles? Piles are not that common for 13 year olds, if you are having rough (unlubricated) anal sex you could have a tear or worse. Check into your local GUM/STD clinic, its anonymous and if you are using anal as a form of contraception you are taking some real risks, don'tr do it again until your bott is healed up, and thereafter use a condom & lube, and only do it if you enjoy it, not for someone else's pleasure only. Would he have a dick up his arse? Don't take a dick that been in an ass in a virgina, you can get some really nasty yeast infections, that may effect you for the rest of your life.
3. It is not unusual for someone of your age to be having sex, but it sounds as if its not entirely unpressured. If there is no equality and respect in your relationship shown to you its not a relationship worth having. As a girl you don't have to be walked all over by boys.
Take care, get some health advice, learn what safe sex is, and learn the difference between a boy and a dickhead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): jesus christ what a dick! dump this boy now! please! i personally think you are too young to be having anal... but as a general rule, no matter how old you are, do not go out with a boy that is "disgsuted" by any part of you or wants to have sex with you even if it hurts you
pls pls move on
gd luck baby x
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reader, sammy296 +, writes (16 December 2007):
 1. if he really does care for you then he shouldnt be hounding you for sex. if he threatens to dump you again, tell him to go ahead, and tell yourself hese not worth it.2. your age says 13-15. you shouldnt even be considering sex at this age. if its wrong change it, but if its right, dont have sex. you are not emotianally - even if physically - ready yet!good luck:)
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reader, Yos  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 Two things.
If your boyfriend is being that selfish then he probably doesn't love you. Someone who loves someone cares for them and if they are ill or have a medical issue then wants to help them, not make it worse.
The other thing: you listed your age as 13-15. If this is accurate, then you are too young to be having sex, let alone lots of anal sex. The reason you are two young for it is not because you can't do it, or because you shouldn't want to. It's because, with sex comes emotions and the need to stand up for ourselves and not be taken advantage of. When you are young it's hard to be honest, open and strong. That's something that takes some time to learn. The fact that you are worrying that your boyfriend will dump you if you don't have anal sex with him (whilst you have piles) shows that you're too young to be doing this.
Sorry, you probably didn't want to hear that.
Anyway, whatever you do, do not have any anal sex til all the piles are gone. You can really hurt yourself. Make sure your boyfriend understands this. If he gives you any trouble about it (he should be caring and sympathetic), then get rid of him.
I it gets better soon, I know how uncomfortable it can be!
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 You shouldn't be worried whether he will dump you or not over this, HE should be worried of having YOU dump HIM if he is treating you like this. I know it is hard to see this when you are in love, and it is much easier to say than to do, but I really think you should look around for a better boyfriend. You deserve someone who treats you a whole lot better than this! Tell him to shape up or YOU will leave HIM.
Take good care of yourself!
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reader, LULU'S Advice +, writes (16 December 2007):
 If I were you I'd get to the doctors,there is cream to help this problem.You should read up on the dangers of having anal sex,which at your age shouldn't be happening.If he dumps you because of them,then all I can say is your much better off without him my love xx
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