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writes:I met one girl who is 10 years older to me in my office.She is married.But she liked me alot.She tried to talk with me and tried to come close to me.In the begining i tried alot to make her understand that its wrong.BUt after some time i started liking her and i started to think her as my girl friend.Now i think i am in love with her and she also tell me the same. But i dont see any future of this complex relation. I dont want to break her marriage. but i am not able to keep my thoughts away from her. I dont blaim her for that. Its only my fault. Now i try to be only normal friend but its very difficult and i feel bad for it. If i tell her that we dont speak anymore that she start cry and tell me she can not bear this pain. I dont want she cry because i love her but at the same time, i am not able to keep myself in this dilema. I feels like my hearts is crying. I never loved before in my life. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2007): First of all, I am in the same situation except mine has kids. If it is meant to be it will, if not you have to look at life quite simply as....."it is what it is." You can't will someone to change, and she must understand how hard it is to be a friend, when you know that you are more to her. For both parties it is best to go separate ways, if you both profess your love eventually her husband will find out. If she doesn't want to leave him, then she must end this as well. Timing is everything....maybe another time in life you two will come together...if not it is better to have Loved and lost. At least now you know what it feels like and it will better help you understand in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): I hope everyone who asnwered will read this answer from me agaain.
Yes i know she can do the same with me but i dont know,how to stop thinking about her.Everytime She is in mind. I never wanted to love her but i dont when i started loving her. Now i am changed. Before everytime i was happy and now everytime thinking of her and sad. And one of my side also tells, that i am doing bad to wait for her. But still cant stop to think about her.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (20 May 2007):
 My heart really goes out to you here, i can really relate to how you are feeling. I know the feelings you are having for her, thinking of her 27/7, butterflies racing round in your tummy.
Unfortunately everythings seems to be working against you, for instance she is married, and you both work together. You say you think you are in love with her, and she tell you the same. As a married woman i feel she shoulden't be telling you things such as this.
It does sound like there is a connection between the two of you, but i would be inclined to not give her anymore encouragement. If something is going to happen then let it be her decision to leave her husband, you don't want to be a marriage wrecker.
Good luck
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reader, mwah +, writes (20 May 2007):
 if shes acting like this with her husband she could do the same to you too..
for your own good its best you let her go..
u know what they say.. more fish in the sea right.. why go for the one which has already been caught..
push the relationship and learn from it..
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reader, vero05  +, writes (20 May 2007):
im sorry to tell you : u have to let her go.
shes a married woman (and a very iresponsabile one).
he has a husbad and you can not come inbetween them.
look for someone else
ull eventually forget about her
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reader, DV1  +, writes (20 May 2007):
 The first love is always the worst one. Most times, it's never meant to be, and can leave a big hole in us the rest of our lives. You need to realize that there is going to be someone else for you out there. At the moment, she is married. If she is in love with you, and not her husband, it will be her choice to do something about it. Until then, try and get on with your life, and put it out of mind. DV1
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