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writes:*Sigh*It's been a month shy of 2 years, and my ex doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore. It's really weird but I want to be with him again so badly...despite the many breakups we've gone through. I broke up with him about a week ago over something pretty stupid, and realized it was pretty dumb of me to break up with him over something so stupid. I asked for him back and he doesn't want to get back with me anymore claiming "you broke up with ME, your the one who wanted this". I actually understand why he doesn't want to be with me because I have broken up with him so many times over silly things before. He says he just wants to be friends and that he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. I am willing to do whatever it takes to make our relationship last this time, but he thinks that the same thing will happen over and over again.What should I do? So far the best quote i've seen is: "If you love them let them go, if they come back they are yours forever, if they dont they were never yours to begin with"
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reader, Love4Life  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 I just read your second post. I would have to tell you to put your foot down. If he Just wants to be friend don't give him benefits that could lead him to thinking he can get away with using you. You are a person too just cause you messed up doesn't give him the right to use that against you. You admitted your wrongs. Be strong it will be hard.
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reader, iloveyou123 +, writes (22 April 2009):
iloveyou123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLet me add, it's been almost a week since we've broken up. During this time I've told him I was sorry plenty of times, as well as telling him that I will never break up with him over something sooo stupid, and that I'll find a better approach to things. He still says no and that he just wants to be a really good friend, forever. Last night, we 'hung out', and he let me sleep over. I used this time to try to patch things up and get him back, but he still refused. Also, we got close and started hugging closer to bed time. When we were hugging, I could tell he was getting horny and I said "hey this is no friends with benefits thing" and he said "friends can't hug?" We ended up having sex. I'm worried that he will just want friends with benefits and that he will never want to be in a relationship with me.
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reader, Love4Life +, writes (22 April 2009):
I would try taking the relationship back to friends like he request. By breaking up with him so many times he is probably emotionally tired and confused. He sounds like he just want a break. Just be his friend and be their for him. That's the best you can do right now. If you keep pushing him he might start to hate you and forget why he fell in love in the first place. So be his friend and remind him why he loves you. If he does take you back remember what you learned and don't repeat past mistake prove to him you have changed its the only way he'll take you back.
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