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writes:hi im 16 an been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. the problem is that we r not inlove an never have been, we just really care for eachother. i know deep down we would want to be in a relationship where we r inlove with that person. anyway i work in a hairdressers every saturday an recently i have been having feelings for this boy that comes in to have his hair cut sometimes. i shampoo his hair an we talk a lot an i have recently found out he fancies me too.he doesnt know i have a boyfriend tho cos i dont want 2 tell him cos i lke him (i know thts mean but i cant help it, i feel really guilty for it tho). is it really bad that i havent told him???? plz answer that cos i really need 2 know):s i was gonna tell him today but i just couldnt! what shall i do? finish it with my boyfriend? cos is it true that if ur happy wih the person ur going out with u wouldnt be liking an wanting 2 go out with someone else? i dont wanna hurt my boyfriend cos i care about him so much tho:(please help me i dont know what to do:(:( Reply to this Question
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reader, pursuit of happiness +, writes (22 August 2008):
Tell him the truth, but tell him you really care about him and want to remain friends, do it in private so he is not embarrassed and come to an agreement to keep the details of your relationship confidential. If he is mature enough, you may well stay friend’s indefinitely. I had the same situation and it work out well for everyone, although it was upsetting for a couple of weeks. Make sure you still do things together afterwards, but avoid anything that might be misconstrued as romantic in the first few months.
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reader, carol3232  +, writes (22 August 2008):
Thats is not true! You could be going out with someone for however long and still be thinking about someone else you would want to be with, its totally normal! There is a boarderline though. It seems that you do care about your boyfriend but it does not seem like its so seriouse between you two. You are still very young. Only 16 so you said that you been with him for 2 yrs but dont love him, you only care about him. So maybe its that time to start somthing neew and see how it goes with the boy at the hair salon vus you will never know until you try.
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