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I've been talking to this guy online for a year. Should I meet him?

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Question - (21 September 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 29 September 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hello all,

I have been talking to this guy online for a year and half. I have seen him on webcam. I have seen his facebook and myspace.

I am not sure if he is tryly interested in me because I am usually the one who starts conversations with him online. I ask most of the questions about him trying to know him better. He asks about me but not too much.

He recently suggested that I fly out to see him because he got sent to a nice vacation resort for work. He bought me a ticket. Should I go? What do you think of him?

Thanks.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010):

Thanks for your replies to my question. I just got back from the trip to go see my online friend. He is a great guy! He introduced me to his friends. We all went out and it was amazing! He paid for everything and did not expect sex. It was time well spent :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010):

It sounds like he is interested enough to want to meet you, but be careful of going somewhere too far. Why is he paying all this money for a woman he never met?

Could you suggest that instead he comes to meet you nearer to where you live?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010):

I feel I don't know him too well, but we could be ok. He plans on spending the whole time with me because I'm going on our weekends. And, he asked for days off to spend time with me.

We're going out with his freinds and their wives, too.

I live in Washington and he lives in Maryland.

I am worried about the chemistry though. I will take your advice and get a room if the chemistry is weird.

I am interested in him but I am just not gonna be head over heals about just any guy.

Thanks for your reply :)

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 September 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntDid you know that the police sometimes 'pretend' to be anon so they can catch pervs(which is a good thing) On-line relationships are like pen pals. don't put a lot of stock in them. It ight be an adventure but I warn you there are some really crazy people in this world. Be careful.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (21 September 2010):

Honeypie agony auntHow well do you feel you know him?

That fact that he wants to meet you a place away from where he lives could be red flag ( as in, he is married and wants some fun while he is away on work) Also, if he is there for work, you will not see that much off him.

Also what if.... you two just don't have the chemistry in person? Then you are SOL. Stuck at some place with a guy you don't really know.

On the other hand, if you get your own room there, it would be like a short vacation if you two don't hit it off.

How far do you two normally live from each other?

Also, you don't really say much about how you feel about him.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010):

He's not interested in you for anything other than having sex with him while he's on his "vacation."

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A female reader, aggy Brunei Darussalam +, writes (21 September 2010):

why not he just come to your place? bcos this guy is unknownn.. so, i think u understand what i mean..

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A female reader, imheretohelp United Kingdom +, writes (21 September 2010):

imheretohelp agony auntEven though you have seen all his social networks, i dont think it a good idea to fly out and meet him. It could be anyone, even if you have been on webcam. If your the one that starts the conversation always, then, is this not a sign that he doesnt seem to care. Who knows. I'm sure you've made a good friendship here, but i'd be careful. and if you really want to meet him, take an adult with you :)

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