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reader, Moonstruck  +, writes (6 November 2017):
I'm gonna have to agree male #2 on this one ladies because me and my bf still struggle a year later with his masterbation although he does get me off first he's very open and has actually told me that were he used to jacking off me moving interrupts his useall flow and I delay if not stop it altogether by moving while he's trying to get off..so technically speaking a woman who moves during sex is a turn off for the man who Jack's off on a regular basis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2011): I too stay still making love and have done for many many years, and think it makes things better if the attitude is right. I was always trying to 'find' an orgasm rather than concentrating on what I was actually feeling, so we agreed that I should stay completely passive - no tightening, no movement at all. At first it was really difficult as the desire to move is very strong, but onve I was able to control myself it was wonderful. It really can make for the strongest of orgasms. It does take some time to do and you have to be really determined, but the benefit can be for the woman just as much as for the man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn your case, that is a compliment, and I fully understand when my husband tells me to slow down during sex or be still for a little while, but he wants to lay still at the beginning and throughout sex every single time. I found it hard to compliment that, but thanks for all the answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): My husband will tell me to be still or slow down sometimes so he can last longer. That way he can control the movement or completly stop until he regains his compoosure... I take it as a compliment! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes he uses viagra sometimes, but not always. Do you know if it's safe to use viagra regularly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): your guess is correct. he doesn't want to orgazim quickly. this is a very common problem with men who sufer from premature ejaculation. although I think he is very lucky to have a partener who wriggles and writhes during sex.it is a big turn on.
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reader, sadandprego +, writes (22 September 2010):
If that's the case I'm sure it is a little difficult for him to discuss but as his wife you need to encourage him to talk about it and let him know that you are not judging him for it and are willing to try other things to help prolong his errection. Has he tried viagra or any other E.D. medication?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI personally feel my husband wants me to stay still during sex is to prolong things, but I wasn't sure. It's not like I didn't desire to ask him about this. I feel that he may embarassed to tell me it's hard for him to last if I move.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): Your husband will know the reason why, so ask him. It might be because the more you move, the more excited he becames and the quicker its all over. So by asking you to keep still, he might be trying to prolong things for you both.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 September 2010):
 Is this every time you guys have sex? If so, I would suggest you talk to him. Personally I couldn't "play" dead fish in the bed.
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reader, sadandprego +, writes (21 September 2010):
This is something that I have never come across myself but as with all intimate concerns you should address this with your husband if it bothers you. Let him know that you would like to take a more active role in the bedroom and give him some examples of what you would like the of you to try as a couple. You may also want to ask him for some ideas of things that he would like to do. There are many couples that have otherwise amazing relationships that don't comunicate their sexual needs with their partner and this can be a big mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): Sounds to me like he`s masturbating an doesnt care about ur enjoyment. Sorry to have to tell u that. Buy him a blow up doll an get a more considerate man.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 Not sure, but it suits his fantasy so go with it.
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