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writes:Alright. Just a little background. I go to this gym frequently for the past year and a half. There is this pretty girl that works there, and I have had a huge crush on her since I saw her awhile back.Well, I finally decided to at least send her a message online, and said she looked familiar. She replied and said yes i work at so and so gym.I asked her about her job and I got this: aha yeah actually .... i miiiight have been on a little probation for being a bad employee. no biggie. but yeah overall its pretty nice working there, free membership and all. oh and its a plus that i get to wear the sexy uniform. what do you think of my front desk receptionist-ing skills?Her uniform is really not sexy at all, just a joke btwI have been out of the game for awhile.....are things going well? What would be the next course of action?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I sent her a message back. Just aszked her how life is outside of work and I am waiting to hear back.
Still waiting to hear back from her but I feel like a nervous middle schooler again.
Hopefully I will hear from her soon =/.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (27 April 2009):
 Things are definitely going well!! And you already got the trickiest part over with - making contact. Keep things light and flirty for awhile, do a little back and forth messaging. You are moving in the right direction!!! You'll feel the vibes from her pretty soon as to whether or not she's really interested. Good luck!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (27 April 2009):
 I would say yes things are going well, the major hurdle was making contact in the first place so well done on that! And she replied to your messgage and didnt tell you to leave her alone so thats a good sign!
I suggest you just talk a little more, get to know her better (and this way you will be able to find out if she has a boyfriend or not!). Try talking to her online and then when you see her in the gym next time make sure you go over and say hi - dont try and hide because you are embarrassed or anything! Keep it friendly for a week or two (no more than that otherwise she will think you are not interested). Once you have been talking fairly steadily for a week or so then suggest you go out for a drink/meal...etc. You dont even have to ask her out to her face if you are a bit nervous - asking her out for a drink over a text message will be fine.
And then who knows where it will go from there! Hopefully it will lead to something good! Little tip - I always think it is nice on the first date for the guy to pay for the evening (it just shows he is willing to make a good impression and knows how to treat a girl right). So if money is a bit tight then maybe you should take her out for a drink; if money is not a problem then a meal never fails to impress!
Just remember to take things slow but make sure she knows you like her - dont end up in the situation where she thinks of you as a "friend" and not anything else!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, confusednkentucky +, writes (27 April 2009):
She's joking so that's a good sign, and she used another good tactic, she asked you a question, that leads for you to get back in touch with her, so I'd see that as a positive, that's how you keep communication going, if she would have just gave you a flat out answer you'd be stumped on what to say next or whether you should at all.
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