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writes: I'd been going out with my boyfriend for one and a half years when he cheated on me with my best friend. That was 2 months ago. I saw them kissing at school (needless to say I am only just forgiving my friend). He immediately stopped seeing and speaking to her when I found out. He was so appolagetic, sending flowers to my house, crying, begging me in class to go out with him again and about a week later I did. I was so angry and gave him a really bad time in those weeks. I made him promise not to speak to her ever again, etc (I am ashamed to say I actually slapped him once, too).Now that we're going out things have been great and we've become much closer. I feel that I know him so much more now and he really makes an effort with me.The problem is for the past 2 weeks I have been cheating on him. I didn't mean to, but this boy I've known for years asked me out and out of politeness I said yes. I only intended to see him once just in a friendly supportive way. But on our second date we ended up kissing. And today I saw him in town when I was with my boyfriend (who he doesn't know about) and he put his arms around my waist and kissed me in front of my boyfriend. He looked at my friend and punched him. He grapped my wrist and pulled me away. I don't know what's happened to my friend yet... I went to my house on the bus with my boyfriend but he didn't speak to me the whole journey.He text me later and told me he'll see me on Saturday but he wants time to think about things.I really love him so much more than my friend but I don't know what to tell him. I didn't mean for things to go as far as they did but now they have and I don't know what to say.Help me!!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 December 2009):
I think the time has come to admit that this relationship has gone as far as it can. Cheating happens when a relationship is in trouble, and since both of you have now cheated, it's safe to say the relationship is just about over. I know it was out of politeness, but you didn't have to let him kiss you. And he didn't know about your boyfriend either, so he won't be happy. Step back from both guys and focus on your own life. Mr Right is out there, but neither of these young men are him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): This relationship is on the rocks, just cos he cheated doesn't mean you should! And btw , next time cheat with someone you fancy not out of politenesS (or just don't cheat)! I mean come on, never go out with someone for sympathy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): you guys are both so youg and probably very insecure youwil grow with time do not be to hard on yourslves, enjoy life try not to hurt the ones u love and always be honest take the moral hi groud,
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