| A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes: sorry for the length but need advice plse.My best friend, who I have become close to and who I have been there for,this past year especially, is always talking about this other woman ( who is married with a child,) she has become friends (friends only) with, through her new business. This other woman has money is more outgoing than me, more louder and apparently has a witty sense of humour. My friend is the original smart ass. Im queiter than this woman apparently.This woman is quite demanding and gets whats she wants at work and in life,she wants my friends very close "connected" f/ship, and she will be her work colleague and boss eventually. She sees my friend on the wkend an calls her a lot. My friend wont make definite plans with me in "case she rings and asks about work related stuff" this hurts me, I know she has other friends, and so do I! thats fine! we all need other friends. my friends are small. I just feel like Im losing her as a friend to this demanding woman, my friend cant see she this, she doesnt know she hurts me when she says she is "connected" in f/ship to this other woman. (F/ship only here.)She likes this other friend so much and it really hurt me last wk when I was with my best friend, and she was on the phone to her other frined and they both said " I love u, we are connected as friends" before ending the call, they had been drinking but were not drunk. this hurt me so much.. i felt lke crying...what do u do when u feel like u might be losing yr best freind?
View related questions:
at work, best friend, drunk, money Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, sarcy24  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 This is very very hurtful and you have to distance yourself and let go. Don't be there all the time for her and let her get on with her new friend. Withdraw and distance yourself and find someone else to hang out with. She has chosen this other person over you and rather than playing second fiddle I would remove myself from the scene. Keep yourself to yourself for a while or go out with other friends. This doesn't sound to me as if it will go the distance and I think your friend will be back as your best friend soon enough.
A
female
reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 Do the exact same thing that she is doing to you. Get a new best friend. She doesn't want to listen to reason, so get a new best friend.
...............................
|
