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anonymous
writes:I had a long distance relationship with a woman who I started dating from the time I was served for divorce 9 months ago. While we both know the relationship is now over I am having a hard time breaking all communication with her. I know she is not the woman for me but I am having a difficult time not texting her and communicating during this hard vulnerable time in my life. Somehow I think she gives me time to fill although I don't derive satisfaction from her. I feel like I'm acting weak while always being the nice guy. Please advise how to stop this weak behavior ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2013): well breakups are difficult for both of anyone. Just stopping the talking and texting with someone you have feelings for is not easy. I guess time is the only healer. Sometimes you have to go cold turkey about any habit you want to break. Do you know what I mean? How does she respond to your calls and texts? does she reply back right away? ask yourself why do you want to stop contacting her? only you know the answer. I know you said the relationship didn't work !! Are you lonely and that's why you kept in touch with her? Try and keep yourself busy, go out with friends, socialize or find a new hobby, sign up for classes of your choice, yoga, meditation, dancing or even cooking, join a book club if you like reading, then you will meet new people and I think then you will gradually stop contacting her, unless you would like to be friend with her that will be different. I hope that helps. Good Luck
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (4 June 2013):
 You are not weak just human. Its is diffuclt to break familiarity / habit.
I advise you delay calling her or texting her till the moument has passed.
It will take time, dont be too hard on yourself. Also try keeping busy or distracting yourself by going out and leaving the mobile at home.
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