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writes:My booyfriend doesn't clean! He doesn't let me do anything. I can't even gooo to the drs wyen I'm sick. He's very insecure. Thinks I'm cheating even thoo I'm with him 24/7. He makes me stay up all night cleaning then ay 6 am he makes me stay up with the baby. When the baby naps he foorces me to clean. He always reads my diary infroont of me. He sunndenly always wants to take late night walks he says he just wants to get oout he's always back within 20 to 30 mins but he always deletes his. Text msgs and call loog. He's cheated in the. Past . Could he be cheating again? He's soo insecure like itts not normal how insecure he is. I remember one pooint I was insecure and that was because I cheated on him and he didn't know but once I told him I wasn't insecure anymore he was never like this until a few months ago
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice. As far as wanting to stay with him I don't know what to say I do love him but I want him to change and there is nothing in my diary that could get him mad or upset when he read it the first time I knew I couldn't put my deepest thooughts in it. I believe people can change I just wish he could. Foor the sake of our baby and our life we built so hard on. I'm thinking it might just be some kind of phase he's gooing through but everyoones telling me to noot let myself believe that. I think I'm going to try one last thing before I do keave just because I don't want to give up and regret it. I'm going too talk to him one on one see what our relationship means to him ask him if he's willing to get help with me if he doesn't then I'm gone if he says he does and slacks I'm gone. Does this sound like a good plan?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): Something may have happened a few months ago that has changed him into this irrational person. It could have been reading your diary or indeed he may be contacting someone he shouldnt. But refusing to allow you to seek medical attention when you need it. Forcing you to stay up at night cleaning. These things are abuse. You are being abused by him. You say you have both cheated on each other and this has made you both very insecure. Your suspicions about his deleted msgs and calls proves that you are still insecure. What did he read in your diary? Was it something that upset him or made him suspicious of you? Your diary is for your private thoughts. Reading that proves he has no respect for you and certainly no trust in you. It sounds like a very toxic enviroment and certainy not a good one for a baby to be in. He might have been ok a few months ago but you have to deal with the here and now. I would suggest, if you have to keep using it, that you dont write anything in your diary now that might provoke him. When you have any private time, contact close family or a womens shelter and see if theres somewhere you could stay just until things are resolved between you and your partner. You both need some time to sort out your issues and your baby needs to be in a safe, happy enviroment. I dont know what it is that makes you want to stay with this person. But you have a duty to put your baby's needs and welfare before any feelings you have for him.
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