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writes:hi, 7 years ago, i met this guy online and he said some pretty sweet things to me, like he loved me and stuff. we went on a date, and i used him, i asked him for money, i thought it was a one night stand.he stood me up for our second date.anyway, i call him and only get voicemail.when i speak to him a few weeks later, he says i should respect people more, and i said to me why i never listen to him.anyway, when he stood me up, i broke into his e-mail account and found his address.since, then i have tried to contact him, he changed his cell number, i written several love letters and have phoned his house.he kept calling me on the house phone and hanging up, and he returned some of my love letters.i phoned his house last year and they tell me he's in australia and he's married.all i wanted to know, was there any chance of us getting back togther ?i know what i done was bad, i was very immature and inexperienced with boys at 19.he never spoke to me, it's now been 7 years and he didn't say nothing to me, and never gave me any closure.i still think about him 24/7 and love him very much.i know they say be strong, and move on, but's it's been 7 years.Please help, i need some real sdvice.Thankyou.
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Thanks AuntyEm for your support. When I read this letter I nearly fell off my chair with TOTAL AMAZEMENT lol.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Excellent answer Dusky!!! I agree. You have more or less stalked this guy and now he has moved on. You don't need closure. he has moved away and gotten married to someone else, so that IS your closure right there. As much as you sit around thinking of him 24/7 it won't change a thing. Get over it, accept that you did wrong and try to be a better person in future.
Aunty Em x
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (8 August 2007):
Hang on a minute, let me get this right, you go on a first date with a guy you met online.You used and ask him for money cos you thought it was a one night stand.
Then surprise surprise he stood you up on the second date, what the hell did you expect? him to respond with a bouquet of flowers and a string quartet. Then you go on to pester the poor guy, declaring your undying love, it is plain and simple, HE DOES NOT WANT YOU and I don't blame him, surely 7 years, by now you would have taken the hint. And plus I don't know many 19 year olds who would have the bare face cheek to have done this like what you have done, and expect him to respond to your affections.
I SERIOUSLY think you need professional help. Sorry to sound so harsh, but I have never come accross an insecure and needy person like you.
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