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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone...we talk alot to each other but it's been a roller coaster relationship. Although we agreed to be friends she brings up her ex in almost every conversation we have about the things they did together. I'm not sure how much I can handle before I mentally collapse cos I have feelings for her.
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reader, childof1981  +, writes (19 March 2007):
 Well, there is one thing you need to focus on . . ."Although we agreed to be friends". It's rather obvious that you may have said "Yes" to this proposal, but you clearly did not agree to/with it.
You are having mental stress because you don't want to be a friend of hers, you want to be a boyfriend. Your problems were caused by not being honest with her and yourself about your needs. Your best option at this point is to tell her you thought you could handle just being her friend but you were wrong, apologize to her for it, and move on.
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