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writes:Split up with my fella after 7 months - he said he thought the world of me but needed to be alone, wanted space, couldnt handle our relationship as he wasn't over his ex - they havn't got back together and won't be, i agreed to give him space, it's been 9 long agonising weeks,and the pain won;t go away i miss him every day, it's his birthday on 11 may which will be nearly 3 months of no contact - i really want to send him a simple text just saying 'happy birthday hope you are ok' no pressure no questions just simple. do you think this is ok ? after all 3 months is a long time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): Of course you can wish him a happy birthday! The whole point of a break up is that you stay friends isn't it?Keep it simple and just say happy birthday. it isn't indicative of anything else. A simple "happy birthday, have a great one! :)" is perfectly fine in my opiniongo for it.
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reader, Shamandalie  +, writes (28 April 2011):
I think it's ok but only if you text him what you wrote here. And don't expect an answer. Just do it to wish him well and nothing more. Good luck.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 I wouldn't text him. He wanted space and if he is ever going to give you another chance, he needs to know you'll fully respect that space. He'll know immediately that you don't really care so much that it's his birthday, you just want an excuse to talk to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): No, I wouldn't. Only because your intention is really to test the waters to see if he now might be ready for a relationship. You will end up more disappointed and heartbroken because the fact he hasn't called by now is the answer you're hoping isn't true. That answer won't change just because you text him on his birthday.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (27 April 2011):
 Is it ok? I don't see why not, but you have to decide if you can handle it if he doesn't respond before you send it. That can almost be more agonizing than dealing with what you are now.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 April 2011):
I wouldn't go to him. He needs to be the one coming to you. I know you care for him, but you're the one here who'll get hurt, not him. Leave him well alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): yh i think this is fine as long as you don't say anything more than that, start it simple, you never know, he may be feeling the same, good luck :)
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reader, jodieleigh  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 it wont hurt.. but dont start all hot and heavy just a simple happy birthday have a good one will be ok..
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