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writes:Hey Everyone!I was hoping someone would be able to put light into my situation.... Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 years (on and off) where we broke up for different reasons and then resolved our issues to give it another go. Well the past few weeks things have been circulating in my mind and its been bugging me like hell. I approach him about these thigns on my mind and he ends up getting upset and angry towards me and shuts down completely! 1. I told him how i feel that its unfair how none of his friends have been introduced to me but he reassures me they do know who I am. He meets all his friends girlfriends and wives but I have not been introduced to any of them not once!2. I told him I feel like he doesnt care about what I do and where I go. I know this sounds silly and you must be wondering I should be happy he is not strict with me, but my issue is that he just does not care if a guy flirts with me or harasses me. I told him i should not be teaching you to protect me but it should come naturally from you! I told him how a co-worker of mine was behaving inappropriate with me, when i told him at first he was very angry and wanted to speak to the guy....but then several weeks have gone by he has not even asked me once is that guy still bothering you. I just cant stop crying feeling that he just does not care.I even joked to him saying, I feel like if i was to do anything behind your back (not saying that I EVER will, cheating is horrible) you would not even stop me, alternatively you would encourage the guy and give him advice on what restaurants to dine me at! Help! I have no idea what to do and feel like i am going crazy! How can i make him see what I mean?Thanks in advance! xxx
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reader, malvern + ♥, writes (25 July 2013):
 It would seem to me that your boyfriend has become very complacent about your relationship. He doesn't appear to be making an effort. It's as though your relationship has run its course and he's not bothered either way. You haven't met his friends and he doesn't care what you do and where you go? That doesn't sound very good to me. I really think you need to pack your bags and go. If he is upsetting you so much then it's obviously not right. Go and find somebody who will love you and include you in his life.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (24 July 2013):
 Ok I wil ltry and answer your questions.
1. If the two f you have been dating and you have NEVER been introduced face to face - that is just odd. He try and placate you with :" OH THEY know all about you...." So why haven't you been included? in 6 years? I think that needs to be addressed and you NEED to make him understand what it is you are asking. TELL him WHY you feel it's important to YOU. And HOW it makes you feel been left out.
2. Well, here is where I would "side" with your BF. You are a grown lady and he is TRUSTING you enough to go out and NOT "get into trouble". If a guy flirts with you it can be viewed in two ways - YOU can shoot it down yourself or you can pretend to be the "damsel in distress" waiting on your BF to interfere - OBVIOUSLY that is not his attitude. As for the work situation, I'm guessing he is TRUSTING you to be CAPABLE to HANDLE this like a grown person. As in, if you get harassed you go to a supervisor or HR. You can't expect your BF to fight your battles for you.
As for you jokingly (or very passive-aggressively) telling him that he wouldn't life a finger if you cheated on him.. If you have no intentions of cheating WHY are you bringing it up why are you sowing those seeds? What are you getting out of that? You were hoping for this big dramatic reaction from him and he didn't bite.
LEARN how to communicate with him, not to bait and then be mad when he can't read your mind.
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