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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Ive bee with my boyfriend for two years and he said that he feels like their is no spark anymore and that he doesn't know why but he doesn't feel the same when he looks at me I don't know what to do we bearly have sex we don't live together but we used to have sex all the time like whenever we were together and now nothing really I still love him like I always have and I do think that it has gone a bit flat and I don't know what to do please help because I don't want to lose him like he said he doesn't want to lose me but I have no idea what o do and how to get the spark back please help
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 October 2014):
 A relationship needs a direction or something you look forward to. The spark also comes and goes. I think it's good that he can honestly share what he is feeling, but at the same time he doesn't know how much of a bummer he is sounding, without thinking beforehand what his suggestions are regarding this. Isn't it obvious that the things you should do is continue to cherish each other and finding fun things to grow and learn? Is he happy with his life? Is he hiding behind stress and depression?
I think you still want sex and somehow he isn't able to deliver his goods. A young guy can't have sex anymore. Oh really? Does he still feel like kissing you and hugging you?
You can ask him if he has something he wants to share with you, because it makes you both feel better and deepens the bond.
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