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writes:ok so thursday was me and my boyfriends year anniversary so we went out and had dinner and yesterday was a second part to it we went and saw a scary movie and went to a haunted house well i know he checks out girls cause i see him but last time he saw a group of "hot" girls run out screaming and he was like ha ha that would be fun to be in their group... when he said that it hurt me cause we are suppose to be celebrating us and he was wanting to be with other girls.... is that wrong or am i just taking it to personally... we got in a big fight about it cause i am sick of always feeling jealous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): They came running out cause they saw me lol. Reading too far into that miss...he was just making a comment and chances are being a little sarcastic or just playful, and not serious. He's there with you and wants to give you time. He may also look at those girls but if its you who he comes home to at the end of the day, that should give you reassurance he wants to only be with you.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 I think you took it too personally, just because he looks at other girls doesn't mean that he is not fully comitted to you. Also who I don't know a guy who wouldn't want to be put in the position of being the tough guy at the haunted house with a group of girls. This doesn't mean he's thinking they are better then you, it's just human nature to want to be the center of attention with the oposite sex.
Making him jealous will just make it worse for the two of you. You're not wrong for being hurt but he's not wrong for making those comments. There will always be other girls out there. Me and my gf got into the habit of beating the other one to it saying that girl is hot or even saying that guy is hot. It's a way to make it more fun but in the end you have to know that there will always be other girls that catch his eye just like there will be guys for you. This doesn't mean you love each other any less. Next time you catch him looking at a girl say something like "she has such a nice ass" and catch him off gaurd. Turning it into a game will stop it from being so personal.
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reader, cupid val +, writes (24 October 2010):
 try to make him jelous.it might brng out his true feelings.if he doesnt do anything just dump him and tell him to grow some balls and get the guts to do something.because hes not worth it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): Those girls came running, screaming out of the haunted house. They had a lot of fun, and it's hilarious to see someone freaked out out of their minds about something as fake as a haunted house.
It's not like he left you to go join their group; he was there with you and had devoted two nights to a date with you. You don't need to be jealous in this situation. It's not like he came out and told you about how hot they were.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 So, you would prefer he consider each and every comment before he utters it. No spontaneity.
Guess what, it would have been fun to be with a group who were all screaming and enjoying each other's company, it usually is!
You are the person who is in control of YOUR feelings, if he is going to have to scope out groups of people to ensure there is nobody in that group YOU might consider "hot" before he says anything I think the spark might disappear a lot quicker than you expect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): No matter what any one says, if u found it hurtfull then that's all that matters. If he truely cares about u he should hate making u feel like that. If he keeps doing stuff like that and makes u feel bad/jealous and knows he's doing that to you, leave the guy, u can find some one who treats u better
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