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writes:Long story cut rather short, I have the best friendship with my ex head of year. He know alot about one another, can read read me like a book! We have a very mature and brilliant relationship, some students actually envy as he is an amazing man. As well as calling me gorgeous and beautiful and hugging me and kissing me on the cheek or head, (which is deemed ok for most people as we have that sort of a caring friendship, as he has been there for me during my worst times) for quite a long time now, he has this thing where he will walk past and blow me a kiss. By blowing a kiss, i mean just puting his lips at me and blowing it without using his hands.A lot of people and my friends say that that is very innappropriate and strange. Is it really? Or am I reading into it too much?I'm only asking out of curiosity by the way, nothing more! thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for the posts! Really appreciate it, although I have to clear this up, I am building no fantasy of any kind. I have knwon this teacher for 6 years straight and grown very closer as friends. Everything I claim that has happened, has in fact happened and does in fant still happen. He is not married by the way. I truly am not asking or saying i want something to happen between us, I was not asking this question so that if he was doing it in an innappropriate manner, i can make "a move on him". no no no! lol, i just simply want to know if his intentions are purely innocent or not, but of course no one really knows. I'll take everyone's advice, thank you all so much
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reader, bemused  +, writes (12 November 2008):
 I am in agreement with the other posters here. I am a high school teacher and as teachers we are supposed to be role models twenty four seven. Not realistic and hard to live up to but this guy is really playing with fire if he is doing as you say. Is he married? Have kids? The existence of these two things would put a bit of a dent in this fantasy you have built around this guy. Hate to break it to you hun but you are no doubt not the first or the last. Face reality and run from this guy. I know there are a lot of posts on here about people having crushes on their teachers. That is ok but to build up a fantasy about a person who should be making his life work to help you to grow as a person is fruitless and painful. People often get hurt in these scenerios. So...like the other posters here and the people who are calling this inappropriate...they are dead on so listen to them. You will meet someone who is closer to your own age and is right for you but you will not see him if you are holding on to this. Good luck hun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): It isn't the right way to treat a pupil - if your head teacher caught him then they would probably have stern words with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry i meant to say I AM 17
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know what you mean about people turning out to be the worst guys, but he is a teacher who is known for his heart of gold, that's why it confuses me, then again, you never know.
I was just wondering if it was so wrong for him to act like that considering he is a teacher and I a pupil.
He's 30, and I'm not 17, 18 in 2 weeks, but still 17! lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): In which case I think you should just take him aside and explain you would appreciate it if he stopped as it makes you feel uncomfortable and other people are asking awkward questions.
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reader, LoveJoy +, writes (12 November 2008):
 I'll say teachers aren't actually allowed to hug or kiss students and his behaviour is absolutely innapropriate.
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reader, samsmommy  +, writes (12 November 2008):
 ok when you said he blows you kisses it kinda made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up..... creepy.i saw your age is 16-17. even more creepy. i totally agree with one of the other comments, those guys that are older and seem awesome and like a hero because they protect you and make you feel safe, are usually the worst ones. don't get me wrong though i know a couple of guys that are like that with me the only differnce is they act like a big brother and big brothers don't blow kisses at me..I just think you should be very careful with this guy he seems like a charming guy and i mean that in the worst possible way.one of the big factors here is how old is he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i'm almost 18 and he's 30. Ok, this is the deal. I admire him and absolutely have SUCH an amazing friendship with him. that's it. He was my head of year for 6 years, through which he done so much for me, we shared alot about one another through this time. that's it.It's just since this "blowing kisses" thing has occurred, people have noticed whilst I had no idea they saw, as they were just standing around, and they have said it's really innappropriate despite the fact that we have a great relationship as teacher/student. I was just curious to see whether it was in any way wrong or innappropriate as it is coming from a teacher to a student. Nothing will develop, as in we are not going to have a sexual relationship, that is not my intention or his, i'm just asking a simple question.Thanks for your responses :)
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (12 November 2008):
 Don't try fool me- I'm a girl too. You're validating yourself and like you have a crush on him, girl. You sound HOPEFUL that he is being inapproprate. Because maybe some day in the distant future... I understand that there is a fine line - but older guys who are like hero's and have been there for you, and are kinda protective and make you feel safe are actually very dangerous boyfriends!! If (I'm only saying if) anything were to develope, how would you feel about HIM breaking your heart. You'd lose a long standing friendship too. If anything developes RUN! Rather let him stay the untouchable hero.. kay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): I have to admit, it does sound slightly dodgy. If one of my tutors did that It'd bother me. He hasn't done anything major yet though so just don't reciprocate, and hopefully he'll lose interest. If he starts getting more personal, then I think you should make an official complaint to the school. How old is he?
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