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writes: My boyfriend is 30 years older than me. His daughter is 5 years younger,and his son 10 years older. I'm only 23 and he is 53.Is it going to work on the long run? Can we have plan to have babies ? He has grand children.. Right now ,he can still have sex, but I heard ,man losing their erections in their 50-60 es. I love him, but Is it going to be a very big age difference on the long run? How am I going to look at his children who are older than me ? He likes me, for being so young, and it makes me feel proud, but does it have a future? Should I get out now? He left his first wife for a much younger woman, but she left him. I guess, she likes younger wifes. Is it risky? What do you think? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): It can work - but depends on you both and the attitude of your friends and family too. I am 55 and my partner is 30. I have more of a problem with the age difference than she does. I am sure some think I am just a "dirty old man" who got lucky. But we have fallen in love with each other and that is what makes it work. My children are about her age and they get on really well, which is great. I am sure they were very sceptical at first. So, yes it can work but you will need a thick skin in the early days. Take care and good luck.
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reader, loner  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 I agree on that, maybe its not love maybe it could be lust, i know thats something you dont want to hear. I have been seeing a guy thats 12 years older then me, and he is devoiced thank the good lord they have no kids. If you love him with love i would say try it, it is going to be really very hard, one never knows where their place is with older men. Although i really love him to bits but for us stands no future im going to hang on and give him time to forget about and hopefully one day i will have him.. Go with your heart not with a thought.. Good luck
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reader, witch-fire  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 The age things works for Michael DOuglass and catherine Zeta Jones.
However, from your description, you say he likes you for being young. Is that love or is it lust? He could just be trying to hold onto a past self that he is losing rapidly.
If it makes you uncomfortable, get out of the relationship.
There's nothing wrong with older men, but we do need to be careful, especially with men that much older. I've been attracted to a man ten years older than me before but the age gap was an issue for him so nothing ever came from it.
I hope this helps.
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