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Is this insecure man testing me?

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Question - (25 May 2011) 7 Answers - (Newest, 25 May 2011)
A female Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Would an insecure man who constantly tests you go as far to tell you he is engaged and going to get married just to see your reaction? And would he then have a problem if you just replied and said she is a lucky girl and i hope it all works out for you?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011):

The hypothetical questions you are asking may, hypothetically speaking, describe a psychopath.

If he has expressed some sort of romantic interest in you in the past (like you and only you were meant for him), and you did not return his interest, I could easily see him getting into another relationship and even proposing (or simply lying about the relationship entirely) to try to manipulate you.

Be very careful.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011):

Yes he is insecure, thats why he is playing games to see you reaction and judge how much you like him, and gets annoyed because you're not all cut up about it, so you must not really like him that much... one word LOSER.

You shouldnt waist your time with this guy, he has issues and will always be playing games to get attention. This could lead to much bigger ploblems down the road as this shows signs that he could possibly have a controlling and posessive nature.

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A male reader, Jmtmj Australia +, writes (25 May 2011):

Jmtmj agony auntI doubt that's a test. If he didn't tell you in person then I really doubt its a test. Regardless, talking to him again would be time better spent talking to a better guy.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (25 May 2011):

YouWish agony auntIf he's saying that to you as a test and it's not true, then he is a game player. Respond like CG and SVC advise, and then leave him alone. Even if he says "I'm not really engaged", leave him alone.

If you don't leave him alone and you get sucked in, you will systematically ruin everything good about your life.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (25 May 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntthat's not insecurity that's full blown game playing.

you don't need that crap.

"she's a lucky girl best of luck hope it all works out" is a perfect response.... nothing more is needed.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (25 May 2011):

If a guy is doing something like this, then his problems go further than insecurity. Certainly respond by saying "she's a lucky girl, all the best", and leave him well alone. If he is playing games at this level, then he represents someone who you shouldn't be around. You don't know what other games he will play.

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A female reader, watshername23 United States +, writes (25 May 2011):

watshername23 agony auntPossibly, but it seems kind of extreme, unless he's really insecure. Is this man doing this to you? What's your reaction to it? Does he like you? I would talk to him about it nicely and see why he says things like that. I hope I have helped and I wish you the best.

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