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writes:Hello everyone.After months of no contact, my ex called me and said she missed me. I still have feelings for her, but I feel strange because she can't just come back to me right?When I think of it, she's way higher class than me, and I get even more puzzled. Why me, when any of her colleagues and most of her friends are better than me? We broke up several times, and I don't want to go through the same thing again. Besides, I feel she is having some problems, and that's why she called. When she solves them, she will ignore me again. She did that many times.I am not as rich as her, but it doesn't mean she should play on my feelings. I am okay to be there to talk as a friend, but not to be part of her game.Advice please? Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): You don't have high enough self esteem and it's probably that that's making you feel not good enough for her. Her self esteem doesn't seem to be so great either, but I guess she may have more of the external things in life that boost the ego and give the appearance of higher class, leading to confidence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): I think both of you are right. She either think of me as a friend or a toy to have fun with. If she really miss me, why she only call after months? After that, she never call again nor leave me any messages.
I know I can initiate communication but once I do that, I wont stop lol. As long as I can help, I am ok even if she use me as a comfort blanket.
I am a still living being lol. The way she comes and goes like that, I feel worthless, like a slave to her but for me she is a precious friend. I think none of my real friend would do that to me.
Again, why me? If she has the money and those around her too, they can do almost everything right?
Guess I should completely remove her from my life. Better said than done, if I can delete all the memories just like that, how nice !!!
Thank you
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reader, charlie p  +, writes (6 October 2009):
I think you're more or less sure of what's going on already, mate. And that said I think you're spot on!Don't let her use you as a comfort blanket, as the emphasis will be heavily on use, if you get my drift.
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