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writes:Hello aunts.Ive looked this question up but honestly it all just seems a little foolish. I have a friend that ive known since elementary school, he's eighteen and recently moved closer to me. I see him everyday and I know he likes me everyone does, they also know i like him. I just broke up with my ex and he completely ignored it when i told him.This is after wanting to fight my ex for yelling at me and telling me how i deserve better. But the thing is he has mood swings he likes me and is the sweetest guy then acts like were just buddies. A few nights ago i was at his place late and he wouldnt let me leave(in a cute way not a mean way) and was holding me/cuddling, then the next night i ended up staying over and we just held each other then today he seemed kind of off, like we were buddies, then we were watching a movie and cuddling. so even though i know he likes me, does he really? If that makes sense, i just dont understand, i love spending time with him, he makes me happy and with the sudden gush of affection i am enjoying it but i dont want to say anything and push him away. So is he in to me enough to try or should i just keep things friendly and simple? Thanks for your advice.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (25 July 2012):
 He sure does like you. But try not to base the relationship on the level of cuddling. That's the "he's got a big crush on you"
However I think he held back a little as he felt it is moving too fast as far as the physical cuddling.
You have known him for ages. And yet on another level you don't know him well enough. And I am not talking the physical action. I mean developing a friendship. If you move too fast and too often with the physical you will lose a wonderful long term friend.
He's very happy to be with you. He may have felt protective towards you for longer than you think.
Tell him the things you like about him without being too mushy. I am sure he has some really nice qualities.
And try to schedule some activities in the day time at the weekend that can be enjoyed outside. Visit somewhere interesting. Enjoy some cycling even if you have to hire the bicylces to do so. Go swimming together or running together. Something physical to use up some of the energy.
You and he can build on your existing good friendship to something more. Patience and slowly build it. Talk over things. Listen to each other. Share your feelings.
Create some shared activities that the two of you can enjoy together. Work out where you are most likely to share interests.
Read a book he loves and share with him a book you love. It is a great way to understand what is really important or what moves the other.
Talk about people you each admire and why. That is a great way to learn more about what qualities the other person admires.
Cook a meal together. Following a recipe neither of you have made before. See how tidy or organised the other person is, or not. It helps build the rapport.
See ooodles of activities you cna enjoy that help to build a relationship and not rush thing. While you get to know each other more and more. In a Good way.
There is no rush. If he is the one and if this is meant to be you can enjoy a rewarding courtship without trying to rush things with too much cuddling that will invariably push things along, inevitably, too fast to the next physical stage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): It seems to me that he likes u. Maybe u should express your feelings to him one day when he is being romantic. He might not realize, since he is at the moment a friend not a bf. my relationship began like that. We started off as friends and then confessed that we liked each other, and that led to us being bf and gf. And also many sleepovers :)
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