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writes:By asking this question I must already have guessed my ending answer, but want to clarify some things if I can do...I work with a large group of people and have done so for around a year, the majority of them have been there for two years. I get on with the girls I'd say really well! However, there is one guy who I think I've hit it off with from day one. We click. I believe I am a good judge of people's characters and I knew this guy was a nice one.We trust one another, essentially. Just do, just because. We tease each other "absolutely ALL the time". Stupid, childish, but it's all completely daft and silly what everyone in our class can join in with and relate to. I find myself looking out for him, looking over to help as though it's a teacher/child sort of relationship, however "I am very watchful like this with all my friends", I'm so known for it!!We have never, ever questioned liking one another, this guy and me. We laugh, saying it would be absurd. We discuss our relationships in general and all things serious when we get the mishap to be alone but, in public, its always playful. I have a boyfriend, who I love very, very much, and I very often talk about him. The guy I am with at work isn't in a romantic relationship with anybody but I try my hardest to prep him up, give him his self confidence to go out and find a really lovely girl where, as an on-looker, I could be so proud of him and him of me with my partner, because I know how much it would help him and the potential he could be as such a lovely boyfriend to somebody.But with this understanding, I can't help but wonder why we do look out for one another so much. I'm not physically attracted to him, at all. Sure, when he gets low I honestly tell him his good points, and that he should smile more etc: but, there honestly is never a hidden meaning. Its more of a mother/child relationship if anything.I genuinely do not think I "like him" but then why are we so close like that? Teasing, making fun all the time? Sat next to one another, looking out wondering where the other is? I can't say I have felt this clicky with my boyfriend in quite such a way...What about if he likes me?I would not leave my current boyfriend.Is this childish banter or chemistry? Are they one and the same? Romantically?
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 You met a nice guy that seemed to need a little nurturing and encouragment. That brought out the mother in you, nothing more, nothing less. Try not to think about it so much, it doesn't have to mean anything.
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