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writes:The girl im in love with is 14, and im 18... Are these feelings i have too much of an age difference?? And im not sure if it is ok to act on said feelings.. Any advice would be awesome....... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would personally like to thank everyone who has or will answer my question/s you are all very helpful and i appreciate it enormously. Thank you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): 4 years is no big gap. This is different at your ages as it is against state law. You dont have to break up,just dont get busy until she is legal.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 I would say you should wait until she is 16 and you 20, or better yet she is 18 and you are 22. At that age the difference is acceptable. But at 14 and 18 the age difference is too big to be acceptable.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 The age difference in itself is not much, BUT as you are both teenagers and she is under the age of consent it is too much. She is legally a child and you are not. This will reflect badly on you if you start a relationship with her, in the society we have. But it is not wrong to have feelings for her, it's just bad timing for you and her unfortunately. If you really like her and she likes you you may be able to get together in the future. So for now just keep in touch with her, be friends with her but do not make a move on her until she is 16. I know you will not want to wait as this will be very hard to do, but you do NOT want the stigma of dating a child when you are legally an adult. You could be branded a paedophile and you could even go to prison. I know your intentions are loving and not evil as you are only 4 years older than her and because you are thinking about this rather than just going for it, but unfortunately society and the law will not see that. They will just see the ages.If you really love her, wait. 2 years may seem long, but it will be worth it. This could be good for you two, as you will know each other better by that time and you will know for sure if she is right for you. And when you do get together you will know it's real love and not just a crush.Good luck!
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Just befriend her.shes way too young to be a gf.if you care enough for her, surely you will wait for her to be legal
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