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writes:I have been in a relationship 9 years but it is not going any where and we have not been intimate for months.i teach and I have developed a crush on my principal. He is warm and I have shared many itimate problems with him in relation to work and he has acted in my favour.When ever I see him he always double takes me. I feel he is out of my league as he is so much higher than me. I am an assistant programme manager. It is the first time i have ever had a crush on someone like him. He is in his 50's and I understand that he has young children. I believe he is married as he wears a ring. I know I shouldn't but I can not stop thinking about him and the looks he gives me are a tell tale.I clearly have not done anything about it as I am still hear and I do not believe in relationship destroying. But hif he is like he in a relationship and not happy why not look.How do I find out? We have a social at work shortly so I am hoping he wilol be there.Any comments appreciated although I canna know what you are going to say...I feel its a two way attraction
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): You only have this infatuation due to the fact that you are in an unloving relationship. This is clearly infatuation. A man usually doesn't wear a ring if he isn't married. So I'm quite sure that he is. Usually when people are in a situation that they are not happy in, the grass always look greener.
Right now you need to figure out if whether or not you want to remain in your relationship. If it is what you describe, then why are you staying? You have not indicated what the problems were. If you want to remain in this relationship, then major work needs to be done. If you don't then you are not under lock and key, so do what is best and leave. Best of luck to you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 November 2009):
I think first of all, you need to address your relationship, because that's leaving you unloved and uncared for. You really need to take a step forward and end it.
I think you fancy your principal because of your relationship. He has shown you some kindness and care and you're jumping at it because you haven't felt it for a while. Hence, I don't think you're reading this right. You need to be single again so you can do a lot of thinking and focus on yourself. Don't jump at anything yet.
Also, if he is married, then you can't touch him. You don't want to be rejected, or worse still, used.
Why not just focus on yourself an your own life for a while, then when you're ready, meet another man who's single and loves you.
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