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writes:I want to really show this girl how much she means so I don't want to mess up is there any right way for foreplay
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reader, Bubblegum  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 Us girls enjoy it more if you turn us on first. I love it when my boyfriend whispers in my ear and kisses my neck. Its romantic and it feels nice, it makes me feel special. You should try it.Much love Bubblegum xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): Dear Poster
Foreplay is highly personalized; it is the enjoyable behavior and activities that takes place between a couple before penetration
No man knows what any individual woman most likes until she tells him or indicates in nonverbal ways. Women vary, and each woman has to be "discovered" by a man( even if he is experienced with many women).
Every couple is unique in what they most enjoy but here are a few tips that might be helpful:
Set the scene:
Ensure you have privacy( lock the bedroom door)
Get the lighting right, maybe burn some candles;
Put on some music;
Strip yourself or strip each other slowly;
Things you can do together:
have a both or shower together
Massage each other
Stimulate each other's erogenous zones, try different variations(leave out the genitals at first);
Kiss and cuddle
Tell each other what you feel; praise little things about one another;
Kiss each other's bodies, specially parts that you know the other is sensitive (not genitals yet)
Be romantic and tell each other about your love
Indulge in dirty talk( careful, not everybody get's turned on by this, know your partner well before doing this);
Relax completely and enjoy each other with loving behavior.
Things that most women do like:
Kissing and caressing ; start away from sex organs and work slowly and teasingly towards them. (The feet, behind the knees, shoulders, the inside of the thighs and the ear lobes are just some areas that are often overlooked by men).
Caress her more erotic areas such as breasts, bottom and mouth;
Kiss her more erotic areas, specially her breasts; (be gentle with the breasts)
Don't get so carried away that you bite her to hard and leave love bites
Run your fingers through her pubic hair and gently caress her vulva;
Find her clitoris; be guided by your partner as to what she most likes done.(Pay attention to the length of stroke, the speed, the type of movement required; the pressure and how long);
if she wants your finger in her vagina(many women do) find a position in which you can do this and still continue with the clitoral stimulation;
You can bring her to orgasm like this if she wants;
( Keep both your hands and mouth active and give her the most intense stimulation in several places at once).
All the time, observe her body to try and establish where she is on the arousal cycle; talk to her and discover what she enjoys.
Don't get stuck in a rut. Experiment with new types of foreplay. It should never become dull or boring.
Hope this is of assistance to you.
Enjoy and keep smiling!
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reader, Rhandy  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 It depends upon the girl, recently I just know that my GF is more on gentle kissing and more foreplay however I did not know all this until I ask her.
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reader, girlabroad  +, writes (1 December 2008):
Sorry to say there is no right answer. That depends on the girl. Some girls like intensity, and want a man to be more aggressive in bed. Others like you to be slower and more gentle. The best way is to ask her what she likes. Don't be shy to ask!! Be in tune to her behaivor in the bedroom. Maybe she likes gentle kissing, and long drawn out foreplay, maybe she likes a little foreplay throughout. Alot of women also need clitoral stimulation to get an orgasm. That will just take time to find, she can possibly help to guide you there. Whatever you do, do it with confidence, confidence in yourself and willingness to try things to turn her on. Make her feel sexy and tell her how attractive she is and how she turns you on. That will be a big turn on in itself. Don't concentrate on the orgasm as much as you concentrate on her. That's too much pressure for the both of you. She might also feel pressured to perform, so just try to make her feel comfortable and beautiful.
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