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Should I be mad cause she had sex before me?

Q.   Hey I got a problem that is threating to end my relationship. For some reason i keep getting mad at the fact that my girlfriend has sex in the past with other people. I have never felt this way twords someone and when i tell my friends my problem ...

A.   11 July 2009: what you need to do is accept the fact that she is no longer virgin before u had meet. try to focus on her attitude, how she loves you and needed u. all this physical things wull be vanished but the love she showed to you remains forever.... (read in full...)

I don't want sex, it hurts. Should I give it to him?

Q.   i don't want to have sex with my boyfriend because i'm not yet ready but everytime he touched me in areas gives me tickles and make me want to do it and i cant think well during that state. then everytime he tries to stick his thing in I cry and he ...

A.   25 June 2009: If youre not ready, dont give yourself in. Sex is given not by force. However if you find yourself that he is the right one, what you do is more relax and lots of foreplay. First time in sex is painful especially if you feel not comfortable however ... (read in full...)

Why do men masturbate when they have girlfriends?

Q.   Why Do Men Masturbate When They Ave Girlfriends???? Plzzzzzzzzz Help My Bf Dose It N It Make Me Really Angry N We End Up Arguein About Itt!!! I Think It Rude N It Make Me Fill Like He Dosen't Love Me N That He Get More Pleasur Wen He Masturba...

A.   19 May 2009: Its completely normal for a boys masturbates even they have girlfriends. Masturbates in my opinion is to satisfy the sexual needs when your GF/bf is not around, it doesnt mean that he/she dont love u, It just he/she wants to fulfill his desire when ... (read in full...)

What do I have to do? I love him.

Q.   hey i'm 15 and have a boyfriend and he is 20 he is nice,cute,understanding,stupid,and very important to me but my parents knows about this and they really don't like him so what i'm going to do?...

A.   13 April 2009: hi first thing comes in my mind since you are my colleagues is that u need to ask why they doesn't like him. or maybe the gap age however since you are 15 are your bf is 20 of course if i am your parents the first thing comes in my mind is that this ... (read in full...)

I'm getting the point where I just feel used for sex.

Q.   So ive been dating this guy for 8 months on and on. But not going out. He says he wants to be single but we cant see other people. Of course it sketchy to me. But we've been hooking up all the time. And im getting the point where i just feel use...

A.   11 April 2009: Will i can relate your question regarding my experience. We have a LDR with my fiancee right now and do the fact that we are very far sometimes i ask him what she wants during in bed, what i want and what she wants, im consider myself that i have h... (read in full...)

I know he's going to propose, how do I let him down gently? But still keep him with me?

Q.   Hi I have been seeing my bf since feb (2008) i live with him and am in complete love with him. Im 19 and hes 30 and he makes me happier than ive ever been before.But he is talking about marriage We are going away to Rome and i know for a fact th...

A.   6 January 2009: if your not ready just tel him, in a nice gently way, i mean you set for a dinner and after u eat talk about your plans.... (read in full...)

How do I earn trust back so we can get our relationship back to how it was?

Q.   i recently cheated on my boyfriend of 3 months and he broke up with me 3 times in 1 day because he was so mad,but thats not my problem because we got back together.my problem happens to be that now that we are back together i still feel that he is ...

A.   5 January 2009: We have similar situation but i think the best thing to do is to ask for forgiveness and let him feel that u are sincere. Goodluck... (read in full...)

How do I get him to be more passionate with me?

Q.   I'm with a man i adore but our sex life is not so good. I'm the one who always makes the first move, i touch him but he dosn't touch me back. theres no foreplay, don't think hes had much experiance. I try and move my hands to where i want to be ...

A.   3 January 2009: talk to him, and you will know... (read in full...)

I can't handle my girlfriends past!

Q.   I am a 26 year old guy and am in relationship with a 24 year old girl.I am deeply troubled by her sexual past. My girlfriend is a caring,lovely person,she is highly emotional and friendly person. My girlfriend was molested multiple times by her uncl...

A.   15 December 2008: Remember this. if you love the person, u must admit and accept of what her past, you must love her of what she is and not of what she have, Dont let her past ruin your relationship, you cant change her past.... (read in full...)

He gave his number to a girl at a bar. I don't know what to believe or what to do!

Q.   Hey everyone... I need a bit of advice. My boyfriend and I have known each other since we were about 3 and dated on and off for years. We started dating about 2 and 1/2 years ago and have lived together for 2 years. I answered his phone the other ...

A.   15 December 2008: Find the sincerity of the guy before you dumped him out in your heart, and make it sure he loves you before he came back and ask for forgiveness, maybe he cannot take the lie anymore thats why he confess to you, Why dont you give him a chance? but ... (read in full...)

I can't get over my boyfriend's past and always seem to bring him down, help!

Q.   Hi Im in real need of help. I cant get over my bfs past, I think I need help. Im so insecure about him. I love him dearly but feel as though Im pushing him away. Im worried he still loves his ex, as he used to talk about her a lot when we first got ...

A.   15 December 2008: You must trust him, and dont let her pass ruin the future, past is past and the importance now is the coming future for both of you, you need to face and accept of what his past, remember that before you meet him, his past is already there, you ... (read in full...)

He said he will tell his friends he saw me naked! How do I get over him?

Q.   Hi. I need help in getting over a guy that hurt me. It's a really bad situation. See, I was living w my friend and her brother in an apartment this semester. I guess me and my friend's brother fell for each other and started fooling around. ...

A.   15 December 2008: Dont afraid, he is using you, dont take yourself into the fire when he traiting you like that, because I think he try to find ur weaknesses to get his bad intention. i rather suggest you to face it and move out from his sight.... (read in full...)

Should I divorce my husband, and live with my boyfriend?

Q.   I'm a 55 yrs old married woman for 20 years. Recently, my husband diagnosed with prostage cancer. Now he's in therapy and we weren't able to have sex at all. I happened to bump into my ex boyfriend in high school. He's a widowed now and availabl...

A.   15 December 2008: go back to your husband, have a set with him and talk everything you desire and needs, Dont let the flesh ruin your marriage, flesh will be vanished on this earth but the happiness you brought to your husband will remains forever.... (read in full...)

Had an abortion, almost died, pregnant again w/HIS FRIEND! HELP!!!

Q.   I fell in love with a guy a while back who became like my best friend too we came part of each other i got pregnant and we both panicked coz im achieved my dream of modelling and he was out of work so we decided on abortion but its illegal in our ...

A.   13 December 2008: will for me i suggest to save the baby and accept the reality, meaning you need to tell your BF about what happen, and tell him the reason why you decide to sleep with your bestfriend rather than not to tell him the truth however you must also ... (read in full...)

Marrying another but having oral sex with my boyfriend

Q.   I am involved in oral sex with my boyfriend. After a month i am getting married to someone else. What should i do. Should i continue with him as i have developed emotional bond with him....

A.   13 December 2008: You must stop having affair with your BF since you will planning married,it will ruin your relationship or Dont marry if you dont love the person and follow your heart.... (read in full...)

Is there any right way for foreplay?

Q.   I want to really show this girl how much she means so I don't want to mess up is there any right way for foreplay ...

A.   1 December 2008: It depends upon the girl, recently I just know that my GF is more on gentle kissing and more foreplay however I did not know all this until I ask her.... (read in full...)

Upgraded husband!

Q.   I received this story from a friend. I found it too funny not to share it with you! :) INSTALLING A HUSBAND Dear Tech Support, Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slowdown in overall system pe...

A.   23 November 2008: good... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is so selfish when it comes to us sexually.

Q.   My boyfriend is so selfish when it comes to us sexually. We've been together a year and a half now, and recently he's been asking me to spice it up a bit with how I do uno stuff with him.. But he has never once or gone down on me or properly...

A.   23 November 2008: just tell him that you left unfulfilled. im sure he will understand. Will for me im considered im high sex drive and when my gF told me that she is not satisfied it will make me more aggresive and make a thoughts that im not good in bed , lol and ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to enjoy giving BJ?

Q.   is it weird to enjoy giving head? my boyfriend says its strange for a girl to enjoy giving a blowjob, but i really do, although i hate the taste when he cums, i love actually doin it.. is it normal? ...

A.   16 November 2008: Yeah it 100 percent normal. i love when my girlfriend do it to me and i really enjoy it. Theres nothing wrong with u. he is lucky that you love doing it to him.... (read in full...)

Since I'm on the pill and we no longer use condoms, he finishes too quickly to give me pleasure.

Q.   Hi, im 17 and have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now... I have recently gone on the pill and it seems to have ruined our sex life! Since we no longer use a condom it takes him a matter of literally 30 seconds to come during sex. This ...

A.   6 September 2008: just open up to him and tell the truth that you are unfulfilled, He might understand the situation.or you might ask him to masturbate before having sex with him, in this case he might get last longer to cum during sex. i told you this based upon my ... (read in full...)

I am debating as to whether or not it would be ok to have sex with this younger man-any advice?

Q.   Some background may help. I am a woman in my early 40’s. My former husband and I were high school sweethearts and married. He and I had one son. About six years ago just before my husband died unexpectedly we adopted two children. After the death of ...

A.   24 August 2008: will for me theres nothing wrong with that. Age doesnt matters as long as you both love each other and satisfy your needs. What matter most is that you understand and love each other inspite of the ages GAP..Goodluck... (read in full...)

I am having trouble getting over her past. Help!

Q.   My girlfriend has a sexual past, as do I. But for some reason hers bothers and haunts me. She's lived a much different life than me. She just got divorced about 2 years ago, and has been with 5 guys since. My mind can't stop picturing her past, It ...

A.   12 August 2008: were both they same situation like my girl, here past always haunt me but i want to accept that i cannot change the past, for being what she have but rather prepare for the future and make the best for both of us. we both have flaws in life but we ... (read in full...)

Oral Sex Phobia? What's his problem?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. I give him oral sex at least 5 times a week. He has never performed it on me and when ever I ask him, he doesn't give me an answer as to way he won't perform on me. He has never given oral sex to ...

A.   9 August 2008: just tell him openly regarding sex, tell him about any position or you may ask wht he fells when ur down on him? and tell him that you want him to down on you and put some feminine wash so that your BF will like it or try ask him 69 position. lol. ... (read in full...)

He wants to have sex, but I feel unready. The very thought of sex freaks me out!

Q.   i am 19 and have been dating my 23 year old boyfriend for 2 years. he wants to have sex, but i just feel that i am not ready. the very thought of sex just freaks me out. i feel i'm letting him down, he tells me he ubderstands but i know he is ...

A.   9 August 2008: if you feel youre not ready please dont do it, you might get in troubled in the near future or maybe his not meant for you, i rather suggest to give yourself to sam1 you really love or after marrieGE ... (read in full...)

Is my LD girlfriend still in love with her EX? Please help!

Q.   Hi viewers, i need your advice regarding my GF, we been 2 years long distance relationship and 4 me its going strong relationship and she accepting my marriage proposal for here and we getting marriage soon after our contract. my problem is s...

A.   4 August 2008: Hi everybody thanks for the responce and it helps me lot, and regarding to Infidel asking how old is she, My GF is 26 and his X BF i think 25 or 24 and im 25. Thanks... (read in full...)

Is there any given time that a girl is obsessed with sex?

Q.   Hi readers? Just want to hear different answers for the viewers. 1) is it true that a girl whose in vinicity of her period is obsessed in sex? 2) if not, when usually is a girl obsessed with sex? is there any given time? thanks...

A.   2 August 2008: thanks to those who shared their advice i really appreciate it.... (read in full...)

How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm not a virgin? Will he still accept me?

Q.   How will I tell my boyriend that I am no longer a virgin?will he still accept me as I am? ...

A.   29 July 2008: Just tel him in a good manner, if he truly loves you im sure he will accept you, but if didnot accept you, he is not the one deserverd for your love , Love is not a look by his physical aspect but you must accept inspite of what he/she really is. ... (read in full...)

Did the older man that took my virginity just want me for sex?

Q.   I am from a religious culture. Half a year ago, I lost my virginity to a man much older than me. I knew it was wrong but I couldn't resist the temptation. I loved him and I am still in love with him. I told him several times I was not ready and ...

A.   28 July 2008: dont give your love to the one who didnt love you, even though you lost ur virginity, what matter most is you are true to yourself and i know there sam1 in the future who will mean for you. just wait.... (read in full...)

I'm tired of making time for him while he's often unavailable!

Q.   I've been dating this for the past 3 yrs my problem is he works from monday to saturday,he doesn't have time for movies or anything with me we only have a sunday for each other.the problem is that i'm a church goer so i just have time for him for ...

A.   28 July 2008: Just try to make things smoothly by telling him the feelings u felt, confront him and talk to him what you want to do. Dont hide the truth, tell him in a good way. and lets find out what he says.... (read in full...)

Marriage: To be or not to be?

Q.   Dear Cupid July 26/08 I went out with a nice girl for 2 years and I intend to marry her. WE did not have any other partners. But I have mixed emotions regarding the virginity issue as I was a virgin and she was not b...

A.   28 July 2008: will we have they same situation it which i came up his 2nd time having sex but its not affect my feeling for here, i really love here and eventhough she has experienced before and totally disgraced me but my love for here and here love for me is ... (read in full...)

What's the best position for sex???

Q.   Im just curious to find out which is the best sexual position....... xxx...

A.   24 July 2008: i reccomend doggie styke. lol... (read in full...)

Can you have an STD if you're a virgin?

Q.   Is it possible to have an STD when you're a virgin? Beside crabs and scabies and such. Just curious......

A.   24 July 2008: yes it possible epecially when you contact with the person who had experienced STD... (read in full...)

Is 10 minutes of foreplay enough?

Q.   hi everybody, i need your answer for different viewers (men and women) my question is how much time would a girl satisfied of foreplay before getting in? its ok if i take 10 minutes foreplay before getting in? Thanks...

A.   24 July 2008: thanks for the advises it helps me a lot, a... (read in full...)

I am a 27 year old virgin, when I date men and they find out, they back off, thinking something is wrong, what do I do to combat this?

Q.   Hello everyone. I don't know how to write what I want to without sounding like a complete loser. lol. Well, the thing is that till date, I have had only short-term relationships, the longest of which was perhaps 4 months. And because I did...

A.   23 July 2008: for me its fine, and i'm happy to hear that my GF is virgin and it related to your case, dont worry about that and dont give your virginity to the one you really dont love,... (read in full...)

The thought of getting caught really turns me on!

Q.   the thought of getting caught really turns me on when were having sex, i know it sounds really strange. when me and my boyfriend are having sex, i prefer to do it like, in his bedroom when his parents are in, or in his car, where its risky, i dont ...

A.   23 July 2008: yeah, i like it to, but for me its makes me excited especially having sex in here house with his family. it adds me thrill and obsession of sex. i really like it, and i think its normal.... (read in full...)

Will masturbating stop me from having kids when I grow up?

Q.   does masturabatng stop me from having kids when i grow up ...

A.   22 July 2008: no, just it just a part of being adolescence. ... (read in full...)

How can I make my brother's girlfriend show herself in her true colour?

Q.   My brother has a girlfriend who I can't stand because she calls me names (like, tramp,slut and many more) and makes of fun my friends. I did nothing to her cause by bro would kill me if found mistreat her but give her the right to treat me like ...

A.   21 July 2008: just get a recorder and record what she says, i thnk thats a good idea,... (read in full...)

How can I make my brother's girlfriend show herself in her true colour?

Q.   My brother has a girlfriend who I can't stand because she calls me names (like, tramp,slut and many more) and makes of fun my friends. I did nothing to her cause by bro would kill me if found mistreat her but give her the right to treat me like ...

A.   21 July 2008: just get a recorder and record what she says, i thnk thats good idea,... (read in full...)

How do know if he's happy? If I'm doing it right?

Q.   Hi everyone! i got something bothering me. I've just started having sex and i don't know if i'm doing it right! How do i know if I satisfy him or not and i'm still terribly shy that i can't even walk naked in the room in front of him! Is there an...

A.   20 July 2008: will it just because things is just started however u can use to it as long as u do it regularly and soneer u will never hesitate to him.(BONDING) 1st tip* ask your Bf if he really enjoy what you did, ask him if what position, style he wants to. ... (read in full...)

I need help....I can't stop cheating on my boyfriend and he thinks he's the only one I've had sex with!

Q.   OMG!... I need help ASAP!... I can't believe im such a "b" !!! =(... I have a bf... im 23 he is 28... we have almost 4 years dating... I met him here in this country where I live now 5 years ago. Last year I got a phone call from a good friend fr...

A.   20 July 2008: it that case you must follow your heart, whose the one that you need most, that can understand you and love you faithfully, what matter most is that be sure that you love that person youre whom to be with and not only for sex because sex may fade ... (read in full...)

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