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writes:Dear Cupid,From October of 2008 to May of 2009, I was in a relationship with the boy that I am thoroughly convinced was my first love. Our time together was absolutely wonderful. During those seven months, I was happier than I had ever been before, and my friends and family could distinguish that fact pretty easily. I never had any fights with this guy (and really, the only disagreements we had were over things such as whether or not the Jonas Brothers were really awesome or...my favorite...who loved who the most), we never cheated on each other (trust me--in a town as small as ours, we would have found out about any such a thing in the blink of an eye), and everything was just great. Then, out of the blue, he told me that he wasn't feeling the same way that he had been feeling before and that he wanted to end the relationship. As you can probably imagine, I was absolutely devastated. Since the break-up, I've had four different opportunities for another relationship; one of which I ended up taking. I really cared about the new guy, but at the same time, I couldn't stop comparing every single little aspect of that relationship to the one that I had with my first love. in the end, Guy #2 turned out to be a completely different person than he said he was, and Guy #1 has made his way back into my every thought. In all honesty, I can't really say that I ever stopped loving him...even after all the times that I swore up and down that I had. To be blunt...I want him back. I love him with all of my heart, and there isn't a soul in this world that I would rather be with than him. The problem is, I don't know how to go about getting him back...if I'm even going to be able to. He seems like he's moved on; like he doesn't even miss me at all. How can I find out if there's any hope of him ever coming back to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 November 2009):
I wish I could say he would come back to you, but I can't, because I know he won't. Genuinly, a guy who cares will be there, and he certainly wouldn't have dumped you. Of course you were devestated, and the fact that you were comparing Guy 2 to him proved that you weren't really over him. But the truth is, he has moved on. So I am sorry. however, you don't have to sit there wondering whether he'll come back to you. Though it doesn't seem all that great, there will be another guy out there. The important thing is that you now give yourself plenty of time and a lot of love to make sure you can get over him. It will take a lot of time, but you will get there. Make sure you're hanging out with friends, make sure you have things that occupy your time. There will be a guy out there who really will love you. But don't just sit there waiting for him to come back, because he won't. Take care.
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