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writes:Has anybody on here ever believed that one person was perfect for them, only to break up with them after a long and happy relationship, and then meet somebody better?My girlfriend left me a about 3 months ago after a 2 years together having decided she was too young to have a serious relationship. We're both 18. We were so much alike, liked to do the same things, and enjoyed having a laugh together doing things couples do. We had our differences, but this made things a little more fun between us. I just don't see myself finding another girl as good, or better than the girl I've had and doesn't want me anymore.Please help. Has anybody else experienced this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank-you very much for your help Irish49. I will do my best to accept things. I suppose I have to. I take nothing away from your answer anonymous, because it was a good answer as well. Thank you both.
eyeswideopen, What are you talking about? is this an error?.... :s lol
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 November 2007):
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): Please take note..you will find another partner who you will love and cherish...believe that. Of course right now, no one will fit the bill but her. Why? Because you are still grieving, the end of this relationship. Even though outwardly it may not show, of course you deeply miss what you shared with her. And I am sorry, dear..it's not easy. It's only been 3 months. Your ex gf is young and maybe she needs to experience life to the fullest, spread her wings and have some time for self-discovery, so to speak. Some people have a lot of living to do before they're truly ready to settle. She's decided she needed time to be alone, find her own rhythms, date a variety of people, develop new friends and interests, learn how to live with and care for herself, totally and independently on her own. These are the ways young people learn who they are and what makes them unique. It's better she decided this now, than 5 years down the road when you both could have possibly married, had two kids, a mortgage and car payments. A break up then would have been much more emotionally devastating and expensive.
You ex gf may need this life process most young people go through and need to get to that "committed and settled" phase of their life. As tough as it is for you, she needs this time on her own, flying solo..being alone. Being alone is a markedly different experience from being lonely. She needs this and you have to accept she needs to do this. As hard as it is, you will have to accept and I think you are getting there. She may be tempted to have fun, by plunging herself into non-stop adventures or new relationships. She may not. One doesn't know but that will be her individual choice. She may start a new career, further her education, travel all over, seek new adventures. The fact is, she needs to learn about life and the more she practices, the better she'll get at making decisions about life, in the future.
You can be friends with your ex gf but I recommend you don't overdo it and not camp out on her doorstep..if she experimenting with dating, that may be very hard for you to see and it will greatly disrupt your healing. Email just once in a while but don't expect a lot, in return. Who knows, you and she may hook up again, down the road. If you two are meant to be..it will happen. But keep your options open for new and wonderfully amazing females to enter your life AFTER you have recovered. One never knows what they will find...so yes, you can find someone else, possibly very similar to this gf or very different, but one that will cherish you. That's the fun thing about life, is being positive, happy and exploring. Good luck Take care and stay strong
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): i was in the same situation as you and i never thought i would be happy again. 4 months on and i am sooo happy ,my current relationship is soo much better i supose you make sure that you get the things u want and dont do the things that but strain on your last relationship. like me your young ,i guess we havnt had enough life experience to say this is the person for me. she will come wen you least expect it.just be yourself and you will be happy.
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