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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We live together, and we are very much in love. I am on the pill, and I'm very faithful about taking it every day. We haven't used condoms since about a month or two into our relationship, we have just used the pullout method. If I ever miss a pill, which is a rare occurrence, I let my boyfriend know immediately. We have been talking about him coming inside me and how it's something we both want to try. How many of you do this? What has it been like for you, and how safe do you consider it to be? Help us out!
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reader, jls022  +, writes (4 June 2015):
I may have picked the male anon up wrong, but just for the avoidance of any doubt, the pull out method is definitely ineffective as a form of birth control. There can be sperm in pre-cum at any time (not just after a recent ejaculation - there have been studies on this) and this can absolutely lead to pregnancy. Any suggestions otherwise are totally incorrect.
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reader, jls022 +, writes (4 June 2015):
I may have picked the male anon up wrong, but just for the avoidance of any doubt, the pull out method is definitely ineffective as a form of birth control. There can be sperm in pre-cum at any time (not just after a recent ejaculation - there have been studies on this) and this can absolutely lead to pregnancy. Any suggestions otherwise are totally incorrect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2015): I'd just like to add that there are many types of pill with different instructions on how to be used. The pill I take has to be taken within a 2 hr time frame and if I'm more than 12 hrs late I must use other protection for the next 7 days. You are probably talking about the combined pill which is over 99% effective. If you miss one it can depend on which pill in your cycle you miss as to how covered you are.
Nothing of course, other than abstinence, is 100% but as previous posters have said if you combine methods it's even less likely you will get pregnant.
I work with 16-19 yr olds and find that some unwanted pregnancies are caused by girls not reading the instructions as to usage when they miss one and relying on friends for advice. Always check the written instructions for the specific pill you are taking or failing that go on the internet and type in the name.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2015): Whilstna previous poster is wrong about the pull out method being ineffective, there are things you need to watch. If you have been having foreplay, the precum may contain a small amount of sperm if he has ejaculated recently.
It is often near impossible for a guy to control ejaculation and he may not pull out in time.
If you are going to ne sexually activw then you should already be on the pill.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 June 2015):
 I just want to add, since the OP strikes me as a nervous person, that while there are conditions that make the pill not dependable, these times you will be well aware of! If you throw up for example. Well then you've thrown up the pill as well and will need to take a new one. But it's as simple as that. Or you use condoms for extra protection for the recommended amounts of days.
All of these situations in which the pill might not be as effective, such as when on antibiotics, will be described in the leaflet. I've used the pill alone, nothing else, for about ten years. I've never encountered a problem with it.
The pill is so effective if you've used it for a while (over a month) that even if you miss a pill you will still be protected. That's how you can go 7 days without the pill (the week of the sugar pill, or the week off) without getting pregnant. Because the hormones you've already added to your body protect against pregnancy for a long time.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (4 June 2015):
 If you two still worry about pregnancy even with the pill WHY not continue to use the condoms?
The pill Is very effective, but it doesn't take much to change that, a case of the tunny runs/throw ups, being on antibiotics and certain supplements can also mess with the effectiveness.
I would USE condoms AND the pi;; and start ENJOYING the sex. I can't imagine the whole "OMG I have to pull out" is great for the sex life.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (3 June 2015):
... Seriously, the pull out method is just about as safe as him coming inside you.
You're on the pill, which is as safe as you can be. Him pulling out or not makes absolutely no difference. It's just psychological, you're afraid because you can't actually see the pill working. But if you don't trust it to work then why not start using condoms? Although, the pill is much safer than condoms...
And Im not just saying these things, I've had several conversations about this with the doctor as my last boyfriend was TERRIFIED of getting be pregnant. I knew enough from before to trust the pill, but after sitting with the doctor for an HOUR talking about it, I can assure you... Im not lying when I tell you the pill alone IS ENOUGH. You can only be protected 100%, not 120%. 100% is 100%. The pill is 100%. You eat it regularly, and if you've read the leaflet you will know that missing ONE PILL does not reduce your protection automatically. It all depends on when in the cycle you are, and if it happens, you just follow directions and or use condoms for the next 7 days.
Read the leaflet. And stop the pull out method, because it isn't a method for anything except getting pregnant.. It has close to zero effect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2015): I've been on the pill for ten years and my partner comes inside me. I'm terrible at remembering to take it on time. Sometimes I miss two or three days at a time. While I DO NOT recommend doing what I do. I thought I'd let you know that I've never gotten pregnant.
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