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writes:I filed for divorce and soon thereafter discovered that my wife is having a sexual relationship with another man. She says that since I have filed for divorce, she is free to have sex with other men and her behavior therefore is not adultery nor infidelity. We were not separated prior to my filing for divorce. So is the date of filing for divorce also the date that one or both spouses are free to have new sexual relationships?
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reader, soon567 +, writes (26 October 2010):
The day she knows with out a doubt she doesn't love you is the day she is free to do what she likes. How can she cheat on you if you two don't love each other. Sex is just an expression of that love so how can you consider it cheating. Just because the state has granted you permission to be separate entity doesn't mean she can't carry on with her life. The court would toss this one out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): Who cares?
You filed for divorce, this means that you want the marriage to end.
Both spouses are free to have outside sexual relationships at any time, even during a happy marriage, as they simply can (I'm not endorsing that).
But when you file for divorce, you are saying goodbye.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Technically, the day you file for divorce does not mean you actually are divorced. Therefore, you guys are in still in the process which still means you are married. I know of a case where a couple filed for the divorce and the husband died before it was final and so, the wife inherited all of his assets. So, yes, some people might still view your wife's behavior as adultery etc. However, it's not a written rule that the day you file for divorce is the day you let loose and have another sexual partner. Your wife is totally bs-ing. She started cheating waaay before this, it's nothing new...Ignore her, let her do as she pleases, you'll soon be free of her and hopefully will find a loyal, honest woman to make you happy when you're ready.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Filing for divorce means you are going through a divorce, you're technically still married until those divorce papers are signed and legalized by the court. So your wife is wrong, she is committing adultery.
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