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writes: Hi all,Back here once again, in pretty much the same situation.I was going through a horrible break up with the same girl about a year and a half ago. But she came back saying she made a mistake, and i let her back into my life, and we were happier than ever.But on friday, i called her up, and she came out of the blue saying she's met someone who makes her think if there is someone better out there for her. She's not leaving me for this guy, but its made her think that if she can have feelings for another guy, then maybe im not this happily ever after guy she always thought being in love was about.I dont know if its the same thing, but ive met people while ive been with her, and wondered what it would be like, but always realised what i had was better.On friday i saw her and she was pretty adamant it was over, but the more we spoke on friday, the more she got confused. She said that maybe she needed to think about things before deciding.We have since spoken on sunday and monday. Mondays conversation was great, we both seemed to agree what was missing, and i was really upbeat and positive and i think it had an effect on her. We were laughing and joking as well as talking seriously about us.I talked about where things could go, what needed to change. She seemed to agree with everything i was saying, and then even strating putting her own input into the conversation. Towards the end of the conversation she said "i painted a really good picture" of the way things could be, and emphasized that.But the thing is now, she says she will call me again later this week, while she has proper time to think about things, but she agreed to think in a more positive way about things.Is she stringing me along, is her not contacting me since the conversation, even to say hi, necessarily a bad sign? Im kinda freakin out, and i would like to know what you all think. Reply to this Question
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (30 January 2008):
Man don't waste your time and depress yourself about this girl.It's her responsibility to sort out her own life and there's no way in the world you can do that for her.I've been there and i can assure you,the months i stayed were the most painful ones.You are setting the stage for another break up.End it before she does.She doesn't love you and is trying to force herself to love you but for how long can she do that? Gather your guts and move on.This chik is complicating your life.
Good Luck.
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reader, dakeos +, writes (29 January 2008):
dakeos is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks,I guess all i can really do is what you all say, wait and see. Thanks again.
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reader, dakeos +, writes (29 January 2008):
dakeos is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, for the advice, ive always been very impatient about things, and time seems to be going slower than ever this week.I am however preparing myself for the worst, if i get my hopes up too much, and it doesnt go the way i want, it makes the fall harder.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Sorry. Maybe she is not stringing you along, in the sense that she isn't doing this with mean intentions, but she is giving you mixed signals indeed. When that happens, man, it's time for you to say goodbye to the girl.
You made a very sharp comment yourself. You have also wondered what it would be like to be with other people, yet you never left her. Maybe it's fair to suppose that she would do just as you did if she were sure about loving you.
Avoid yourself the heartbreak, and don't push it. Let her be. If she won't call, don't call her. If she calls, ask her where you stand. If she doesn't say anything clear, well, leave in silence.
I'm afraid she isn't coming back to you. And, if you think about it a little, you will see that break-ups never come out of the blue. Imagine what would happen with you if you were gradually losing interest in her, and she didn't notice. By the end of it, she would say that the relationship ended "out of the blue".
Maybe you were unaware of the problems in the relationship, but she was very much aware. She must have dropped hints, and you didn't interpret them as such. Don't worry; that happens all the time.
Whatever happens, think of it this way: the end of a relationship is a new beginning. Another chance to make things right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): It is not a bad sign, she said "end of the week", so wait until then. She is confused and want to think things over. She is not stringing you along, she probably want to make sure that she is clear in her mind before speaking to you, so that she does NOT end up stringin you along.
Finger crossed!
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