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writes:Hi, Please let me know something. I am broken up with my girlfriend.We had an intense love, but now we've moved on. It's been 4 months since the breakup, 2 months since last contact. The last contact she said at the end of her e-mail, "I'll be in touch soon" ...okay, my question, and please, I'm just looking to understand this: is she thinking of me, regardless of whether she knows it's over.. does she as a woman, think of me and what I'm doing? Even if she has a new boyfriend, since I haven't reached out to her at all.. I think of her every day although I know it's over. Does she do the same? I'm not going to write her if it's yes, it would give me some comfort to know she is... I feel like she has just dropped me off the planet and it's weird and painful, but if I know she is thinking of me, I'd as I said, feel a bit better...thanks so much!!We were together 5 years and had 2 wonderful vacations in Jamaica where we had a blast. Reply to this Question
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (22 September 2007):
 I sound quite similar to you, my friend. Only my relationship was long distance and lasted only 2 years, and shared many happy moments together. Also, rather like you and your ex, we also shared a holiday in the Carribean. Not a day goes by when I don't ask myself the same thing you have asked here on this site since the split just under 3 months ago.
I think about my ex all the time, but I'm not so sure she thinks of me anymore because she is so busy, which saddens me. 5 difference is a hell of a long time, and am envious of you both for lasting so long and sharing so many wonderful momories. You were both lucky to have something as special as that.
I'm sure she does still think of you because you were together so long. I wouldn't be surprised if she's thinks about you for many years to come. It isn't something you should worry about, because either way, you two are finished, right? But I know that feeling. I'm still having those feelings, and it's very strange, isn't it? Best of luck to you, mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): I broke up with my ex 8 months ago. It was because he had financial problems he decided to end things. Even though I've started dating, he is always in my thoughts and I still often sleep with his picture next to me. We had an intense relationship which lasted on and off for 4 years. Even though we haven't had contact in months, I'm sure that he still thinks about me because our times spent together were very special.
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reader, rcn +, writes (22 September 2007):
 The memory of the time you spent will be lifelong. As far as her thinking the same as you, it depends. If it was as intense as you say it was, I'm sure you cross her mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): I'm sure she does still think of you. I mean five years is a long time. Even if she did fall out of love with you or is dating someone new or whatever, she did spend a huge amount of time with you. There are a lot of things around her that she automatically associates to you. Even if unintentionally. Everytime she hears a song or sees a place that you two used to go to. Or finds an old shirt of yours. It's only natural that she thinks of you. Memories of you are still fresh in her mind and come up in her mind out of association because you guy's were together for so long and only recently broke up. However, I don't know what exactly her thought is when she does think of you. She could be reminiscent and nostalgic, or she could be a wreck because she misses you terribly or she could be aloof because maybe she thinks she has moved on or maybe she is angered because you guys ended on bad terms. Whatever. You know the answer to that. But she does think of you.
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