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writes:I need help and i have no idea what i am supposed to do. My ex and i broke up about 4 months ago because i believe we were spending way to much time together and small fights turned to big ones. We dated for 4 years and everything was great up until about a month before we broke up. Well she started dating another guy about a month ago and seems to really like him. but she tells me she loves me and acts like we are still together. he doesn't really know that we have been hanging out, ect. behind his back. Well every time i decide that i need to try to move on cause i just cant handle it anymore, she starts acting like we are a couple again and it makes me want to try to stay with her. i mean i love her so badly i would do anything to be with her again. but it seems like i am in a vicious circle that i cant escape. If you have any advise for me, i would be beyond greatful. it is getting to the point were i feel like i am literally loosing my mind.Also i should probably add that i have class with her everyday so its really not like i can just stop talking to her. if it helps any i am 20yrs old and she is 19.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI Know you guys are all right and in a way i know that i just dont know why i dont just quit. i guess i knew i did this to myself. thank all of you for your help you really did help me open my eyes a little wider now i just need to take the much dreaded step of telling her off and moving on with my life as hard as that may be.
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reader, DESTINY 23 +, writes (23 October 2009):
 Hey the girl might be playing games but you dont put your foot down . I wonder what you did to make her leave and go get another man in her life. ? Drop the feel sorry for me and the class . This is your fault for putting up with it .If you let someone disrespect you and dont do anything then you get whats coming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): The strength does exist within you, you just need to take on a different perspective. What she is doing is not right. Why is it that you don't believe that you deserve better than that? Try distancing yourself some more from her. Perhaps dating someone else might help the process along. Do what you have to do, it will get better with time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wish it was so easy for me to just get away from her but i cant drop my classes i need them for my major and we share alot of friends so i see her everywhere i just wish there was an easy button like on tv. where this would all just go away cause i dont know how much more i can take. and i see no way out.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 October 2009):
Gerta and Star Maiden both got it right. Get the hell away from this girl fast!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): It sounds to me like she is definitely playing games and you already know on the inside that you need to protect your heart. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you seeing her each day in class and that really is a set up that will test your strength as an individual. I would recommend telling her that you are not ok with what is happening and if she can not focus on just 'you' she needs to go. Set healthy boundaries for yourself; you really do deserve so much better than that. Don't settle for anything less than respect. Never let anyone treat you like that!
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