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writes:My ex and I recently ran into eachother and have started talking again. We broke up over 2 years ago.She split up with me because she thought I was seeing someone else, which I wasn't, and she thought I was a bit needy. Her insecurity made me think she wanted to be closer, wanted a more serious relationship, in the end I guess I came across as "needy"...We have met for lunch 3 times during work, and have chatted a bit, I'm interested in her but I'm not sure how she feels. I'm pretty sure she knows where I'm coming from even though I haven't came out and said it.Anyways she's a bit flaky with making plans, always seems busy, she does work 7 days a week. About a little over a week ago I called her, she didn't answer or call back. The next day I sent her text asking how her day went,and nothing. So I left it, then just a couple of days ago she called me on my bday, she said she would like to take me out, that shes been really busy, we chat for a bit and leave it at that. The next day I run into her at a restaurant we have lunch together, she asks me where I would like to go for dinner for my birthday, I say where ever is fine. I text her later suggesting a restaurant. I remembered she doesn't really like it when she has to decide. Anyways she never got back to me.That was 2 days ago. I don't really know what to make of it. Is she interested or isn't she?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (13 April 2012):
 Foot in Her Mouth is right.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (12 April 2012):
 Atleast things are clear now. She wants everything on her terms alone. Anything you have to say counts little to her. So you can now move on and look forward to better things in life. All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
So I texted her basically saying there was something I would like to talk to her about and if she had time to talk later in the evening. This was yesterday.
She basically said that it sounded like drama, she doesn't have time to talk, but she will make time to have fun and laugh. She said I can either forget about whatever it is I want to talk about or we shouldn't talk anymore.
I simply replied "I read you loud and clear".
I left it at that. But, that response reminds me of the girl I dated. All I wanted was to cut the bullshit and figure out if we were on the same page.
we dated for about 7 months and in that time she never said she was my girlfriend, but we both agreed not to see other people. She always wanted to keep things casual.
I don't want any drama, but now it seems like there already is. I feel like a bit of tool. Quite frankly,I'm not too sure if I would even like to start seeing her again. I kind of remember only spending time with eachother when she wanted to, when it was convenient for her. Seems to me, whether interested or not, thats how she would still want it.
Anyways, there ya have it.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth +, writes (10 April 2012):
Probably not, but in order to be sure, swallow your pride and ask her how she feels about you.
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (10 April 2012):
You don't want this sort of "wondering" in any sort of relationship. When two ppl really like each other, they are in constant communication. If she is interested, she has a strange way of showing it. It's not likely to get better.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (10 April 2012):
Frankly, no. Move on.
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reader, joanna11 +, writes (10 April 2012):
i think she is just as confused as you. She just ran into you and doesnt know how to take things. She is confused and unwlling to accept the fact that she might have feelings for you again. your both older and alot can change in just two years. i would tell you to ask her straight if she had any feelings for you again
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