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writes:I have never really talked about guys as much as i have until now.I've worked at a family business since I was 10 years old. I take care of the customers and tend the store just about every day of my life. And I'm wondering if thats affecting my attraction towards older guys (like mid 20's or so) rather than guys my own age. I see really REALLY attractive male customers come in and out every so often, and once they leave and finish dropping off their clothes, I just smile to myself and think.."omg..he's gorgeous!" and just hope he comes back around the time I work so I can see him again. I also have this thing for rugby players. For some reason, the european guys who are in their mid 20's, are just insanely handsome and hot. I cannot help but think about them every time I get bored or just...need something to think about. There are ZERO guys at my school who are as attractive as they are. I think its because they don't lead a mature lifestyle like the older guys or I just have no feelings/attraction for them.Yeah..I'm not sure if this is healthy for my age...and even my friends think I'm way too boy/older men(older than me but younger than 30 years old) They have never seen me like this. As I get older..will I continue this obsession with older guys..or is this just a phase....I have yet to meet someone who is as hung up on 20 something year old guys just like me.Thanks
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reader, Sevenlova  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 Once that guy respects you and you respect yourself you will learn that age is nothing but a number
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reader, floraltemptaions  +, writes (14 June 2007):
It may be a phase... or it may not. I too was one of those who found the older guys attractive. Always I felt more mature and more responsible then everyone my age... partially too because of my upbringing. You sound very similar to me, raised in the family business and always having to be on your best behaviour to wait on customers, or be at work on time.. and just had a lot more responsibility and better work ethic then our same aged friends. When I was 15, he was 18, when I was 17 he was 28, when I was 18 he was 32... now... I have settled and am happily engaged to a wonderful guy 11yrs my senior... but we have the same goals, so it works out. While I regret letting my teenage years slip away by wasting them on my older counterparts, it was a huge learning curve for me. But.. one rule I do suggest you stick to, DO NOT DATE CUSTOMERS. It always turns out badly... and then your family is out a good customer.
BEst of luck!
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reader, Beckto +, writes (14 June 2007):
 Totally normal. I dated men older than myself from the beginning. I was 15, he was 18. I was 19, he was 29. I was 21, he was 34. I was 24, he was 38.
Then it all changed. I left a man who was 13 years my senior, who I was engaged to. It just wasn't right for that stage of my life. I wasn't interested in settling down with him, and he was pushing for a marriage and kids.
The next guy I dated after him, who I ultimately married: I was 27, he was 26!
So, it could be a phase, or not. For me, I was interested in older guys until I got into grad school. Then I started meeting guys who I felt had not only a brain, but enough maturity for me. But, I have friends who still date men older than they are.
It's more about what you want in a relationship than the age of the people involved. The risk with older men is that your individual goals don't mesh. Maybe he's getting older and wants kids before he's 40. Maybe you're 26 and not ready for that yet. See?
Don't worry. Just be careful.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 I think its perfectly normal. When I was like 12 I had a major crush on a couple of the members of Take That lol.
Where you have grown up a lot for your age by working since you were ten, the lads your own age may seem a little immature to you so you look to older guys. There's no harm in finding older guys attractive, I just wouldn't recommend pursuing any of them at your young age.
Your friends may only see the lads you go to school with or hang around with so they may not have the chance to see an attractive 25 year old.
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