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writes:I have been dating a guy just over 2 months now, We met through online dating and met up with each others 4 times now. He lives 1 hour 30 mins away from me and have not had any exclusive conversation. We seemed to be getting along well and we were very attracted to each other. Got intimate the first time we met. (No sex involved)The problem is he is still checking his online profile. He checks up every day nearly. He did say he is not looking for anyone else or dating other people. Maybe he's keeping his "Options open" but I am worried he's playing me.I don't want to sound neediness or clingy. Thank for reading! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the replies. Just a little update, I am still confused as ever. We are still dating, but hardly any progress. We are not "exclusive" yet, I've mentioned to him how would he feel, about "us" being a couple in the near future. His response was "I'd like to". I did not want to pressure him about the "exclusive part". He still go on the dating site once or twice a week, as he said he has got friends on there. I don't know anymore, we are not seeing each others after the New Year now. Which I am a bit upset about, as I wanted us to spend the New Year Eve together. But he said he's going to his Uncle on New Year Eve and I even invited him to come to my parent's New Year Eve Party but he declined. Then he said about us meeting up after the New Year.I dunno anymore, he text me every day and phoned me twice a week. He hasn't even brought me a Christmas Card, that says it all basically. And other thing he knows where I lives but I cannot send him a Christmas Card because I do not know his home address. He said he will in time. I really like him a lot, am I wasting my time here? I want more, I want to be in a loving relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for replying. I agree, It's still early days and I will see how it's goes.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Yep, you're not exclusive yet. Many people date several people at the same time until the relationship gets to a point of seriousness. Usually then, there's the conversation about being exclusive, but until then, he's dating more than one at the same time.
I would suggest holding off on anything sexual until there is exclusivity. If he pushes for it in your meeting, just tell him that you reserve sex for an exclusive relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): Well like you said, as you're not exclusive yet there could be a possibility that he's dating other women. I wouldn't worry too much about it though seeing as it's very early days and you're only casualy dating at the moment.
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