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writes: Is my Boyfriend Gay? Okay so my boyfriend and I have slept together (when I say slept togetehr I mean beside each other NOT sex). He's spent the night at my house about 3 times and we've been in the same bed. I dont wear a bra to sleep in. He's never made a move.(Which is good because I dont want to have sex with him yet) but I'm wondering if it's more than just morals. My mothers commented that its very weird he hasnt tried something. The most we have done is kiss. Does he not find me attractive? or is he gay?? We've joked around about him having sex with his best guy friend before. He called it 'kinky gay sex'. This is his first real relationship. But I'm wondering if he might be gay and just not admiting it. He quit his church recently due to their stances on gay issues and womens rights. Whenever something about gay people are brought up he defends them completely. He'll even bring up stuff sometimes,So is my boyfriend gay?
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reader, manamaster  +, writes (27 June 2009):
 maybe he is a responsable guy, or he is a gentleman, it's good to try to seduce a man, but be careful, because if he is drunk take care. i admire him. dont worry, if you speak this with him, maybe he will accept.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your help. He isnt gay and now I am positive he isnt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): Could be gay. Could be bi or unsure of it.
17yo, alone in bed with his barely-dressed GF who trusts him, and he's not making a move?
Well, either he's not attracted to you, he's not attracted to any girls at all, or he's so nervous and uncomfortable than you may have to make the first move yourself.
Or he also might be scared to get going at all because he doesn't trust himself. Maybe he's scard that he won't be able to put the brakes on when you wanna slow down.
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reader, DavidW  +, writes (30 December 2008):
My gosh what are you complaining about, you have found a boy who has total respect for you, why are you trying to wreck the relationship.
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reader, Lauren..  +, writes (30 December 2008):
 Hi
I think that it depends on how long you've been going out because that may factor into why he hasnt made a move. This being his first relationship as well, may also factor because maybe he isnt really sure what to do in a relationship, and he doesnt want to do anything to scare you away.
Also, the fact that he left the church because they disapprove of Gay sexuality, may just be because he doesnt agree with this.
Now i dont know the boy, so it would also depend on the way he is acting around you. If you havent been going out a long time, then maybe you could wait a little while and see what happens. If it has been a long period of time, then maybe talk to him about it but be careful what you say so as not to hurt his feelings, and have him think that you believe he is gay. Also, if you dont want to have sex with him yet, then dont worry too much about the fact that he isnt trying to force you to do something you dont want to do.
I hope ive been a little bit of help. Good Luck!
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