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Is my boyfriend cheating on me ?please help !

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Question - (1 August 2015) 6 Answers - (Newest, 2 August 2015)
A female Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi, I suspect my bf cheating on me :( so,I just came back from overseas after two weeks and found out my bf washed the bed sheets..he haven't put them on, only washed them and left in another room to dry out, and when I wanted to ask him where the sheets and doona cover are

- I just said "babe!..."

-He straight away knew what am I going to ask and interrupted me "the sheets are in another room,I washed it". It is very unusual for him . We 've been living together for almost one year and he would never do it by himself. I am suspicious because I have changed the sheets before I left for holiday :(

Don't get me wrong,he is very clean man - he cooks clean and do washing, but he never cleans the bedroom.Before we moved in together his mum would changed his sheets because he hated doing it.even when linen was obviously dirty, he would wait for his mum to change it..

Am I right to feel suspicious towards him ? What should I do?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2015):

Also just to add the fact that he 'forgot to put them on' doesn't really sound like a devious mastermind trying to cover up infidelity so you don't find out!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2015):

Yes I do know someone who found out their boyf was cheating due to the same sudden interest 'bed sheet washing' activity you describe after she'd been away, it was the tip of an iceberg however and there was more evidence to come.

It's possible you will find more conclusive clues than bed sheets. It's also possible he did just wash the sheets for some other innocent reason.

For example I've washed mine because the cat puked on them or something. Even the most non-domesticated man is not going to sleep in that!

Only you know your boyf and how your relationship is. Do you have other suspicions or is everything good between you?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2015):

At the risk of sounding crude, it's far more likely that he had to wash the sheets due to a "spillover" resulting from his masturbating in your absence than to cover-up evidence of infidelity.

If he hasn't given you any legitimate reason to suspect he's cheating then let it pass. As others have stated, if he was cheating then there would be far more serious signs such as changes in his behavior.

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A male reader, Xearo Trinidad and Tobago +, writes (2 August 2015):

I think if he is cheating, you should be able to find more than suspicious bed sheet activity. Something like overly private phone behavior, unnecessary arguments, etc.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (2 August 2015):

Honeypie agony auntYou suspect him over him washing sheets? Because he is not usually a "domestic" guy?

Have you considered that he might have done it because he HAD to do something while you were gone and thought, fresh clean sheet might be nice? (he washed them but forgot to put them back on) ?

He probably didn't recall that you changed them before going on holiday.

If there are NO other "clues"/"hints" that he could be cheating, I would NOT presume he was cheating over freshly washed sheets.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2015):

Maybe he wanted the place nice and clean for you ready for when you got back.

I wouldn't suspect cheating just because of this.

Have you been away before? Does he normally tidy around ready for when you're back?

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