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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Is my boyfriend obsessed?!?!?Ok. I think my boyfriend is obsessed with his ex wife's kids. (they aren't his kids, just hers). They dated for 2 months, got married, and he left the her after 2 weeks. (she was stealing meds from his mother and just so happened to be a drug addict). Anyways. She has two daughters, one 14 and one 17. He hates his ex, yet he still talks to her daughters. Him and the 17 year old have some freakish relationship. They txt and talk on the phone. He sent her a graduation gift and she has sent him pictures through the mail (I assume) quite a few times. I told him that I really don't think there needs to be that much communication, plus, I believe that if you are talking to her kids, the ex still has reason to be in the picture. We once got in fight about it and, next thing I know is the ex comes over to his mom's house saying "Why did you tell my daughter that you broke up with her (meaning me) and that she's stupid". We fought for about an hour and he apologized. I asked him to stop. He was like "They didn't do anything. Their mom did. It's not like I'm seeing one of them." WHOA!!! (he's 43 and I'm 24). I told him no more texting or calling them. He agreed.So, he lives about 2 hours from me with his mother who is ill (in the same town as the ex and the kids). He stayed the weekend with me and we drove down to his place. I go into his room and there are only 2 of our pictures up (out of the 6), the rest are laying down not standing up. And 5 pictures of the daughters sitting in the crack of the dresser so they stand up. I'm like WTF!!! He says he was cleaning. He's been really weird about me seeing his phone too. This morning there was a message from some intials (the first intial was the same as the daughter's, but not the last.) Its said "I haven't heard from you lately, I'm worried about you." I asked him who and he said "a guy from work or maybe his wife, they knew I was out of town."What the hell is going on?Please help me out here!!
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 It's bad that he say's he "hates" his ex. It would be better if he was indifferent to her. Keeping in contact with her kids is one thing, but being a big part of their lives is another. It sounds as though he may be using them to stay in his ex's life, and, I hate to say it, but he may be using you to try to make her jealous. At 24 you don't need some mixed up old fart bringing his crap into your life. You could find someone without a load of baggage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): Why are you seeing a guy like this? Yes there is something wrong. He tells the daughter he broke up with you? He leaves his wife after 2 weeks? His stories don't sound right. Again why are you seeing him?
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