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writes:After our on and off relationship got rocky (once again) for the first time in our 2 years together i broke up with her.(she admitted shes been out of love with me for a while, I still feel/felt very much in love and didnt see the point if she wasnt as seriouse as I was/am) Three days after the breakup she began dating again and another three days later slept with the new guy (god I wish I didnt know this) meanwhile Ive been missing her and trying to remind myself that the breakup was for the better. So far I feel very disposable and left wondering how valuable I am/was to her and people in general. My personal plan is to focus on getting a military career started (something ive always wanted) and start dating again, trouble is that I know dating wont be much use while Im strapped into an emotional roller coster.Is it wrong for me to feel hurt by her moving on so fast? how can i get through this faster as the pain/hint of anger seems almost intolerable?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 Stop giving her money. She is not worth it, she chose him therefore if she is in trouble then let him pay her way. Its not up to you now sweetie dont let her take you for a fool.
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reader, justice_102 +, writes (18 February 2011):
justice_102 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually, after seeing her today (had to give her some money to keep her financialy stable as she has no job and I do care about her well being) she told me that I was being used as a financial stepping stone to get her moved into her new apartment and buy furniture while she remained emotionaly detached from me. Also caught a glimpse of the new guy sleeping nude in the bed I bought and we chose together. Basically, I'm just pissed now.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (17 February 2011):
No it is not wrong for you to be hurt or upset over this, it is completely normal to feel like this. But you must remember that everyone deals with relationship break ups differently, she could have possibly been with him on the rebound as she may have been hurting as well and some people tend to deal with this by getting with another person really quickly to try and cover up the pain. If you were together two years then I doubt she got over you in less than a week. Am sure you did mean a lot to her she just found a different way off dealing with the pain.
You need to now accept that things are over and you both need to get own with your lives. If you want a career in the military then go and apply for one, it may very well take your mind off things and just accept in your head it is over now and try and forget about what she is doing. I think all you need is some time to heal. Dont go to quick in to dating though give yourself sometime to recover from this relationship, it is always the healthiest way. Goodluck.
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