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36-40,
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writes:Is it worth going after a guy who is very attractive, and who a lot of girls fancy ?. This guy seems interested in me. I think he is very attractive, but i've noticed from his facebook page that a lot of girls find him attractive. They post comments about his photos saying he is sexy, gorgeous, handsome, e.t.c. He is currently single though.I just think i could have a lot of competition lol .
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 Date Hugo Chávez instead. Surely you won't have much competition there :-).
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 It's a challenge, but only if he makes it so. If you aren't a jealous person, and if he treats you right, this shouldn't be a problem. Maybe you should try to date him first and see how he deals with boundaries.
If he does it correctly he will prioritize YOU, and talk about you to his lady friends. By doing this he shows that he is your territory, that he is a taken man. It all lies in how he acts. It is not possible to say right here and now how he will act, you need to start seeing him exclusively first, then judge his behaviour.
He would do right by not flirting with others, not commenting back calling other girls sexy or hot, showing you that he only has eyes for you. He would also have to include you, introduce you to his female friends, and not do anything intimate with his other female suitors (such as staying over late at night alone with them, or going out on "dates" with them, seeing them naked, or show himself naked in front of them (oddly enough some people do this thinking it's just friendly when the case is quite another). He'd need to take a stand and show to them that he is taken, that his loyalty lies with you, and that you come first.
If he's unable to do these things while you are exclusive he will only bring you a headache and heartache, because you'll feel like you constantly have to compete with the other ladies. So it all comes down to his dedication to you, and if he's good at showing his loyalty to you.
Female friends easily claim guys as their territory. You would have to fight them a bit, and I wouldn't count on becoming their friend. They'd be jealous. As long as you are ok with not being everyones friend it's not a problem.
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reader, Star xxx +, writes (19 July 2011):
 Hi
Yeah sure go for it there is nothing stopping you, you think he is interested in you so strike up conversation and see where it goes.
The only thing i will say is though if you are going to pursue someone that popular you will need to have a strong personality and not have a jealous nature because women can be vile when someone gets in the way of what they want.
Good luck and take care xx
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