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writes:Is it wierd that my boyfriend still talks to his ex girlfriends mum about how much he misses the family? Let me give you some background..He was with the girl for about a year and a half and, as it was a long distance relationship he would often go down and stay with her family during school holidays (he was 15 at the time). It is now 5 years on and he still talks to the girls family saying how much he misses them. When I brought the subject up with him he said I was being stupid. Am i?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2012): **original poster**
they broke up because of distance. he told me that a few days after he broke it off with her, he was desperate for her back but she had got a new boyfriend and he was heart broken. he always says how she was the love of his life and used to compare all other girlfriends to her. although he has reassured me what he has with me now is better etc im still abit uneasy. and now i find out he is messaging her family saying how much he misses them. it has been about 5 years since they broke up. but im still not sure what to make of the situation?!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (25 April 2012):
 It's a little weird in my books. But perhaps if I understood how they broke up it might help. Could he still be in love with her? If you are convinced that he harbors no feelings for her, then it's probably harmless. Make sure you meet them. It's important for them to know he has a new girlfriend (in case he failed to mention this to them, which would be another red flag).
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): No this is not weird. My family keeps in touch with an ex of our brother. He has since married someone else. I keep in touch with the parents of two of my exes. I get on well with them, and I love/like them in their own right. I don't keep in touch with my ex and my brother doesn't keep in touch with his ex. New relationships form around relationships. Don't worry, and it is most probably not a threat to you.
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reader, traeumerin242  +, writes (23 April 2012):
It was fair to bring it up with him. It is curious why he would remain in contact with the family of an ex. However, this does not mean that he still has romantic feelings for his ex or that he has not moved on from the relationship. I have a friend who is rather close to the family of a girl he fell for, though he never dated the girl. Even though he is now engaged to someone else, he still keeps in contact with the girl and his family. That being said, it could also be a sign that he is not over that relationship. I wouldn't make too big of a deal over it now, but if it seems like he isn't over his ex, you may want to consider looking elsewhere.
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